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UPDATE: How do I (24F) tell my friend (26F) that she has ruined our friendship? (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
17-Mar-23 5:20 pm
UPDATE: How do I (24F) tell my friend (26F) that she has ruined our friendship?

Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi..._that_she_has/
Thanks for the advice on original, just wanted to update with the outcome.
I spoke to her.
I told her everything that's been on my mind for months and how she's made me feel about certain things. I made a point that I felt like our friendship was unfair and that my boundaries had been disrespected. I also highlighted her constant negativity and of course, her obsession for this celebrity.
I was trying to be kind about things. I told her she needs to get help because she clearly has some issues. She skipped over the celebrity obsession in one paragraph, where she admits she has an unhealthy attachment and says the way she has shared things with me makes it out to be far bigger than it actually is. I strongly disagreed with her on that and she avoided that topic again.
Instead she turned the blame of me for not being open and communicating enough and it's my fault my boundaries were not set in place better. That's partly correct, but in my defense, I didn't feel comfortable discussing them because I had a feeling she'd make me guilty for setting them.
Maybe I'm just wired different because I assume that if someone goes quiet for a day or two, that generally gives me the idea that they want some space.
I don't ask for much from her and I just wanted her to see it from my perspective I guess. I wasn't going to message her but I'm not the kind of person who will block and ghost, stupidly wishing I had taken advice from original post and done exactly that. I'm a *******!
She has said that she hopes I haven't been offended and hurt by things that I've taken the wrong way, not accepting the fact that some of the things she has said genuine were hurtful.
She has summed it up like this:
So yeah, I have things to watch out for, but so do you. Try to be better at letting people in so that you can have a chance at making real connections and history doesn't repeat itself.
I asked her to respect my boundaries and not message me again and she has then sent me a document with 2.5k words repeating herself and trying to highlight me as the main problem. And then another two massive paragraphs this morning.
Moral of the story, if you have a friend like this, just walk away.

TL;DR : UPDATE: I tried to be honest and tell her how I feel and the blame was thrown back at me. Moral of the story, if you have a friend like this, just walk away.


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