Im debating leaving my husband because he does almost nothing for our relationship or baby.

This may be a bit of a mess but I?m at my wits end and seriously need to know if I?m going crazy or if this is normal. Me (20f) and my husband (21m) got married almost 2 years ago. Of course like the beginning of all relationships it was good, but the second the honeymoon phase was over, I was greeted with a man who can?t clean up after himself, is a borderline hoarder, constantly sleeps, and hardly tries to help with our baby.
To lay out our schedule, he goes to work at 6am Monday-Friday. Comes home around 2-3pm and sleeps or played video game the rest of the day. I wake up around 7am with the baby, feed, wash and then spend the rest of the day struggling to clean my house with my heart disease (ventricular tachycardia) all while trying to entertain and keep my child out of trouble. He?s an extremely clingy baby who just started walking. My day ends around 8-9 when baby finally falls asleep. By that time, I?ve gotten almost NO house work done. My kitchen sink is full of dirty dishes right now. If I wanted any silver wear at this very moment, I wouldn?t have any. On good days, I?m aloud to take the car after my husband gets home to pick up baby formula, yet the only thing I could cook in my house right now would be a cassava cake (Filipino cake). I spend every day all day caring for a baby while struggling to cleaning up after what FEELS like 5 children and a tornado from hell.
But with everyone, there?s 10 god 10 bad right? Yet when I try to list it out, 1) he pays the bills 2) he claims he loves me? 3)? 4)? 5)? 6)? 7)? 8)? 9)? 10) he? nope still nothing.
I can?t remember the last time he took on an actual date, he doesn?t help clean, his idea of helping with the baby is putting baby in the crib and leaving him there to scream and cry so my husband can continue to sleep. He won?t let me get rid of any of the junk he hoards (grange and living room and spare room closet absolutely packed with stuff he hasn?t touched in over a year). Won?t do any dishes, does one load of laundry a month.
I seriously don?t know what to do anymore. I have no finances of my our or even an account at ANY bank. No high school degree. No car (gave it to my parents when I moved). No way to get to my home state, no friends where I live, no support from my mom (she will always take my partner/s sides over mine every time. ALWAYS HAS). I literally feel like I?ve got nothing. I?m so sick of feeling isolated and unappreciated.
Even if I do decide to leave, I?ve got no way to my home state and family and money. What do I even do at this point?! We already has a cps investigation because i was so burned out, tired, alone and getting no help that my house fell to a whole different level of disaster. I?m terrified of that happening again but I starting to feel that exhausted again and my house is falling apart. Even as I type this, my baby in his crib crying and my husband is in bed AGAIN. I?ve got nothing anymore but my baby and I don?t want to lose him. EVERY TIME I talk to my mom about it I get the exact same reaction: ?he?s just stressed and tired,? ?He?s such hard worker? ?You just have to keep supporting him and doing your best.?
Yet the last time I kept trying to just ?do my best?, cps was called. I feel like I spend EVERY night crying anymore. I?m disgusted in my house but no matter what I try, it doesn?t get better. He?s the type of man that I had to beg for a real wedding ring for months before he got me one. If I don?t agree with his house decor ideas even a little, he give me the cold shoulder and gets passive aggressive with everything he does. If I doN?t want to do the deed when he wants he gives me the cold shoulder even though he knows intimacy hurts me. If I actually get after him for not watching our baby for 30 minuets max, he gets passive aggressive and whispers things like ?it?s okay, I know, it?s okay? to my son like I?m some horrible villain. It makes me feel like I?m going insane and like crap.
I have been giving everything I can to this relationship and I?m met with a basic?goodnight? at the end of the day when I join him in the bed been on for hours. I?ve done everything right, I?ve ignored the pain to satisfy him, I?ve spent nights in a row without sleep trying to clean a house so I can actually get stuff done. I?ve made dinners out of chicken and whatever I can scrounge in the pantry while holding a baby the whole time so my husband could eat.
I?m exhausted and I want to leave so I can have a cleaner less cluttered with garbage off the side of the street life.
TLDR: I want to leave my marriage because I?m sick of giving everything I am to someone who gives nothing in return.


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