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My mother expects my husband and I to support her financially (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
23-Feb-22 3:25 am
My mother expects my husband and I to support her financially

TL;DR: My mom expects my husband and I to support her every month and has no plans for her own future. How can I approach making this situation better for everyone? What options could she possibly have with her age?
The situation:
My husband and I ( age 30) have been giving my mom( age 58) money for a year now. She is getting money from the government in Canada but it's only enough to pay for her small apartment. She hasn't worked in a long time and was staying with family prior. She has some health problems but nothing drastic enough that she can get disability from the government. She doesn't seem to have a plan and we just keep sending her a bit of money each month for grocery and bills. She always says she's in god's hands and God has a plan and something good is going to happen. It doesn't seem like she wants to make any effort to change her situation and is just praying something will change on its own.
My feelings:
She is always grateful for the help but now it just seems she thinks this is her life now and is not going to try to do anything. I don't know how to approach this situation anymore. If we stopped giving her money she would be very stuck. I don't want the responsibility of her life in my hands. If something happened to our finances and we could no longer send her money she would be lost. It's not fair she has put this weight onto me. I try to fight my own hurt because my mom kicked me out when I was 18 and hasn't been much help my entire life when I struggled other than emotional support.... But here she is depending on me. I try to fight that past hurt everyday but this situation makes me feel that hurt even more now.


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 Lindalee11 (0)  (38 / F-M / South Carolina)
23-Feb-22 10:27 am
Well to be honest with you. If your mother is not working and old or has no way of income then definitely you guys need to help your mom. It’s really not a bad thing or something too big to do at least it’s your mom and she took care of you while you got no way of income for yourself as a kid. So you have to pay that in return. Never listen to negative opinion about not supporting your mother coz it’s gonna be a bad one honestly.

 

 

 
 
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