Thread: Is it better to wink first or send a message?

Is it better to wink first or send a message? (by larz1284)

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WalkSoftly
19-Feb-14 2:03 pm

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LaDawn (11)

(50 / F-M / Oklahoma)
19-Feb-14 2:40 pm

Winks aren't lazy to me at all...this is a dating site. If we were a bunch of singles in a bar and the fellow across the room smiled at me then I can return the smile or not...that is all a wink is, an introductory smile to test the waters. I really don't get why everyone gets hot and bothered by the pervs...they are everywhere, in real life and online. Frankly, in my opinion women are to blame for them anyhow...if they weren't getting the right reward by certain women then the behavior wld discontinue. Seems simple psych 101 to me...men or people for that matter are going to continue doing what works for them...and pervy men sure seem to get alot of reaction outta of certain women, just like they are looking for. Smh....mebbe I am the only woman on here that realizes in this dating game all the power lies with us. Men approach and we decide...Why do so many women get mad because the men approach. Why be on a dating site at all if every time a man dares to speak to you you are going to flog all men for his affront? Geez!

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crazy08 (5)

(36 / M-F / Indiana)
19-Feb-14 2:58 pm

Winking first is like the poker phrase, reading the room.

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cal169
19-Feb-14 3:48 pm

Quoted Post:

Winks aren't lazy to me at all...this is a dating site. If we were a bunch of singles in a bar and the fellow across the room smiled at me then I can return the smile or not...that is all a wink is, an introductory smile to test the waters. I really don't get why everyone gets hot and bothered by the pervs...they are everywhere, in real life and online. Frankly, in my opinion women are to blame for them anyhow...if they weren't getting the right reward by certain women then the behavior wld discontinue. Seems simple psych 101 to me...men or people for that matter are going to continue doing what works for them...and pervy men sure seem to get alot of reaction outta of certain women, just like they are looking for. Smh....mebbe I am the only woman on here that realizes in this dating game all the power lies with us. Men approach and we decide...Why do so many women get mad because the men approach. Why be on a dating site at all if every time a man dares to speak to you you are going to flog all men for his affront? Geez!

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OmgItsJessi
19-Feb-14 4:40 pm

Imo winks are pointless

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