My (36F) husband (36M) is acting weird about my new job. For the first time in our relationship, I?m out-earning him. I think this is the problem

So, 6 months ago I got a huge promotion at work. Like, gigantically huge. It?s been really challenging but I?m doing well.
I have been married for 8 years and during the course of the marriage I have been outearned by husband by quite a bit. Money has never been an issue, it?s not like he ever said, ?This is all my money? but he has made little jokes here and there.
About 3 years ago we had a serious discussion where he told me that he wanted to take our lifestyle to the next level (Nothing frivolous, we live in the Boston area and want to buy property) but he felt stressed out and burdened because it would make us much more reliant on his income. I dropped out of college about halfway through, and he urged me to go back to school so I could earn a higher income.
I did go back and I?m super glad I did. After my promotion, I am out earning him by around 30k annually.
He was super excited and happy for me at first, but now he gets weird when money comes up. We?ve been able to save for a downpayment on a house but he gets very touchy any time I bring up the fact that my new income allows us to up our budget considerably.
Back in the day we had an in joke about how I was going to go shopping for clothes, or on amazon or whatever and I would say I was going to spend all his money. He bought some expensive shoes and I jokingly said, ?don?t spend all my money? and he blew up at me. There are a couple of other smaller incidents where he has been sensitive about money.
He wouldn?t out and out say it but I think he is feeling emasculated by my new salary. How can I talk to him about this without making him feel like ****?
We share all finances, so he?s reaping the benefit of more money and I know he is proud of me. But he insists that he is happy about it when his actions speak otherwise.
Tl;dr Husband makes less money than me now and seems to be in his feelings about it but won?t admit he?s in his feelings.


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