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My (20f) boyfriend (21m) refuses to see me amid Covid-19 pandemic, but still sees other people. (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
28-Jun-20 9:20 pm
My (20f) boyfriend (21m) refuses to see me amid Covid-19 pandemic, but still sees other people.

For context: My bf and I have been together for a year and a couple of months, but we have known each other since high school and I have had feelings for him that entire time. Within this time he has met my family and I have met his, including extended families around holidays. We share a group of friends, but he is more social than me and has other regular groups of friends. For most of the time we?ve been together, we have communicated well and hung out together often. Up until recently I would call our relationship ideal.
Since the pandemic (and proceeding global lockdowns began), he has been much colder to me, texting me less, calling me less, and refusing to see me at all. We do not live together, and neither of us have been working, because my job was deemed non essential and closed for the time being, and he was unemployed for several months pre-pandemic. I mention our employment status because that means we are both at our respective homes all day, pretty much playing video games or doing basic house chores for our families. This leaves a lot of free time to be able to text your partner, or at least, you?d think it would.
Now, I wouldn?t have any issue with him not wanting to come over and see me if he made an extra effort to talk to me more often. I often send him texts like ?hi,? ?I love you,? ?can I call you later today if you?re not busy?? And I am regularly met with no response for sometimes 18 hours or more. I have told him a few times that I need more communication, that it hurts my feelings to not hear from him for too long, and things get better for a few days, then go back to ?normal.? Another condition that I wouldn?t have any issue with him not wanting to see me is if he was actually following any other social distance related rules during the pandemic. He still goes to fast food restaurants at night (where he?s coming in contact with who knows what through the window and debit machine etc), and regularly hangs out in close proximity with his buddies to go smoke weed together. Any time I ask him if he wants to see me, the excuse is always the same ?I don?t want to catch covid from you.?
Here?s the thing, Dating.mobi, I was sick 3-4 weeks ago (likely with tonsillitis), and ended up being tested for Covid-19, just to be safe. My test came back negative, but I did the two week self quarantine anyways just to be safe, my sickness cleared up on it?s own within the week, I stopped having any symptoms, and I was confirmed to be safe by my local health unit. The only places I have been since my self quarantine ended were: 1. to visit my grandparents at their home before I saw anybody else because I was least likely to transmit anything to them at that time (because I had not seen the outside world in close to 3 weeks), and 2. to the grocery store, in a mask. While I was sick I did not ask him to come over. During my two week quarantine I did not ask him to come over. He has been refusing to see me on the grounds of not wanting to catch covid from me since well before I was sick, but continued seeing other people whenever he wanted.
Am I crazy for being upset about this? Is he using this as an excuse to just avoid me?
TL;DR: my boyfriend refuses to see me during the Covid-19 pandemic, even after I got tested and it came back negative, but he is perfectly happy to hang out with just about everyone else he knows.


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