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I (19f) Just found out my mom (38) has been lying to me about my biological dad. I left the house an (by Sparky)
I (19f) Just found out my mom (38) has been lying to me about my biological dad. I left the house and I don't know where to go from here
I've never had a relationship with my dad. He left when i was born and signed away all parental rights to me when he was 18 and my mom was 19. When I was 16 I went behind my moms back and got information on him, and found my aunt on facebook. I messaged her without telling my mom. Well, I didn't think it through because she told my mom that i reached out and asked for permission to talk to me.
When my mom found out she cried and was so upset i didn't come to her. I felt like i couldn't because of how emotional it makes her. But she gave her permission, and we talked everyday and she also gave me her sisters facebook, who she said was ecstatic to meet me.
Then, one day, they stopped. On the same day. I was so confused. Its been years now but i was so hurt and confused. I was so excited to finally know the other half of me, and it just stopped. It hurt a lot, but I let it go.
Well, this morning my mom used my laptop and left her facebook logged in. As this has been on my mind consistently over the years, i just had to look at their conversation. When i found it, i was shocked.
She told my aunt that she didn't want them contacting me anymore and asked that they would stop, and they respected it. I was just so shocked and hurt. I couldn't believe it, she never told me she did that. I had just spent years thinking they didn't care enough. I got so mad at my mom, I packed a few of my things and left. Shes been texting and calling me like crazy, shes mad at me now and I don't know what to do or if i overreacted. She told me it hurt her badly for me to talk to her like that ten leave. How do I fix this, or can I? Its been about 7 hours now, and i'm at my boyfriends, but I don't have anywhere else to turn.
Tl;Dr My mom told my biological family to stop contacting me and never told me. I found out today and i left the house.
Edit: my mom lied by omission. My parents dated for nearly a year before they had me- they went to prom and he attended her graduation(I have pictures) he was a year younger than her. He wanted to put me.up for adoption. My mom gave him a way out 19 years ago, and he took it. Also, my moms not a narcissist. Highly emotional? Yes. She can also unintentionally gaslight situations, which is why I left.
Edit #2 my mom got married in 2009 and has had 2 kids since then
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I've never had a relationship with my dad. He left when i was born and signed away all parental rights to me when he was 18 and my mom was 19. When I was 16 I went behind my moms back and got information on him, and found my aunt on facebook. I messaged her without telling my mom. Well, I didn't think it through because she told my mom that i reached out and asked for permission to talk to me.
When my mom found out she cried and was so upset i didn't come to her. I felt like i couldn't because of how emotional it makes her. But she gave her permission, and we talked everyday and she also gave me her sisters facebook, who she said was ecstatic to meet me.
Then, one day, they stopped. On the same day. I was so confused. Its been years now but i was so hurt and confused. I was so excited to finally know the other half of me, and it just stopped. It hurt a lot, but I let it go.
Well, this morning my mom used my laptop and left her facebook logged in. As this has been on my mind consistently over the years, i just had to look at their conversation. When i found it, i was shocked.
She told my aunt that she didn't want them contacting me anymore and asked that they would stop, and they respected it. I was just so shocked and hurt. I couldn't believe it, she never told me she did that. I had just spent years thinking they didn't care enough. I got so mad at my mom, I packed a few of my things and left. Shes been texting and calling me like crazy, shes mad at me now and I don't know what to do or if i overreacted. She told me it hurt her badly for me to talk to her like that ten leave. How do I fix this, or can I? Its been about 7 hours now, and i'm at my boyfriends, but I don't have anywhere else to turn.
Tl;Dr My mom told my biological family to stop contacting me and never told me. I found out today and i left the house.
Edit: my mom lied by omission. My parents dated for nearly a year before they had me- they went to prom and he attended her graduation(I have pictures) he was a year younger than her. He wanted to put me.up for adoption. My mom gave him a way out 19 years ago, and he took it. Also, my moms not a narcissist. Highly emotional? Yes. She can also unintentionally gaslight situations, which is why I left.
Edit #2 my mom got married in 2009 and has had 2 kids since then
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