I [28F] feel disappointed in my Christmas gifts from my husband [32M] every year. This year is the worst of all.

Update: thanks guys, I have read every comment even if I didn't reply, it's just a bit overwhelming. I wasn't really expecting how intensely my marriage would be picked apart. Just for my own self, I probably wont be replying as much to everything anymore. But I am reading everything. I think I need to admit how unhappy with my marriage I am. I'm sorry if my replies are increasingly short. Thanks again everyone. It's a pretty hard wake up call that people see these glaring problems I've been avoiding. This advice is all appreciated and welcome. I'm writing things down to look up.
So my husband and I have been together for 10 years. We dated for 2 years and have been married for 8. I realize how horribly ungrateful the title of this post makes me look but I just want to have a chance to explain what I mean.
So, to put it bluntly, it seems like my husband goes all out for his family and friends and I'm always an afterthought. To give an example, last year he got his Mom and sisters all matching earrings with their birth stones in them, all custom done in a matching setting. He got his Dad some brand new fishing gear. He got his best friend a really nice framed photo of them fishing together. When I wanted to help with the gifts he just told me he would put my name on them. The same year he got me a controller for 'our' game console that I never play, and it usually gets used to add a 3rd person to games when we have friends over.
I totally know that Christmas is not about the material things. The thing is, I've never even gotten a card. Or a special dinner. Nothing. But he gives a card to everybody in his whole family and lets me sign it. Every year I get him something really special and meaningful and I make him a big card and every year I hope that this might be the year I get something. The first few years I thought that he might just be saving up for something but I don't think that's it.
I've tried talking to him about this numerous times but normally just comes across like I'm being ungrateful or brat about not getting anything I want and so the conversation ends. Money is not tight for us and we work really hard so that we are comfortable. I always make totally modest gift lists with stuff that is really easy to buy that he could get on Amazon or that he could easily go to the mall and get. I even usually try to make it something we can both use like a Roomba or bubble bath or a kettle or something. He usually takes my list and that's the last I ever see or hear of it. He always gets really upset if I look disappointed on Christmas so when I open a sweater that's 3 sizes too big in my least favourite colour or an air freshener or something. Then we go to his family's house and watch everyone open their things and it just makes me feel sad.
I get so many comments from his family like "Oh, I'm sure you must have been spoiled earlier today!!" And I don't think people believe me when I comment "Yea I got socks...". The thing is, I would be totally happy with socks if he told me the reason he got them was because I have chronically cold feet and he couldn't wait to spend the whole day with me and my socks and he hoped that I love them. Instead he normally just goes "Do you like it?" And anything other than a yes causes an argument.
He's normally not like this about stuff throughout the year and generally listens to me and honestly takes good care of me but it's just that every time Christmas rolls around I feel so disappointed. It feels like the whole holiday he doesn't even want to be near me and just wants to spoil everybody else except for me. I'm not even sure how to go about bringing this up with him and I could really use some advice.
This year we did our presents early. He didn't even get me anything. I got him an engraved genuine leather wallet and handmade card. He told me that a sweater he got me on a cruise earlier this year was my Christmas present. I wouldn't be upset with receiving nothing if he had to be at least told me he was looking forward to spending the holidays with me. Instead he just told me to stop looking so disappointed.
Am I just being a totally unreasonable and ungrateful jerk about this, or would anyone feel upset by this? I don't know how to bring this up after 8 years of disappointment.
TL;DR My husband always puts way more effort into everyone else he knows for Christmas, and it feels like I'm deliberately an afterthought. Bringing it up upsets him.


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