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Family (51F, 48M) turmoil over my (18F) hobby (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
19-Dec-19 3:45 am
Family (51F, 48M) turmoil over my (18F) hobby

Hello r/relationships!
I'm an 18 year old girl. About a year and a half ago I decided to try my hand at baking cupcakes from scratch. I instantly found I had a big love for baking and confectionary, and started to bake every weekend while my parents were out of town. I read books on the subject, I watch endless cooking shows, and I am whole-heartedly considering appling for culinary school. I bake for school events, company events, and often have classmates pay me to make their favorite desserts. It's a joy and I absolute adore what I do.
Sadly, there's a problem here. My mom has OCD, the "cleaner" variety. She's taught me how to clean pots, pants, measuring cups, and baking trays correctly. She's taught me how to seal packages after opening them so they'll be 100% certianly pest-free. Anyone who bakes often will know that there's always a chance of missing a streak of flour somewhere or a bit of caramel that you didn't notice yourself spilling, though. I absolutely try to keep the kitchen clean to the best of my abilities, but mom almost always finds something wrong. Today she asked me not to bake in our kitchen anymore, which is fine. It, of course, made me a little sad, but it's only my fault that I don't clean the kitchen correctly and miss stuff. Uncleanliness stresses her out and my hobby's not more important than her mental health.
My dad, however, was very upset with this. He said that mom sucks the joy out of everything and that she was "killing my interests." He's really angry with mom for not allowing me to continue doing something that I like so much. I suggested that I wait with continueing my hobby until I get my own apartment, but dad wants to find another solution. (He had a very thoughtful idea of installing an oven in his office so I can go there to bake instead, but I don't think that's going to happen because it'd cost his job money to install new kitchenware.)
What do you guys think might be a good solution? How can I continue practicing my hobby without upsetting my mom? How can I get dad to sympathise with moms decision? There's alreasy friction in their relationship lately over my mom getting upset over the rest of the family having hobbies that she, for one reason or the other, doesn't approve of
TL;DR: My mom doesn't want me baking in our kitchen because it stresses her out. Dad's angry with her over her decision to forbid me from practicing my hobby. I sympathise with mom. Thoughts?
EDIT: A lot of people are talking about getting my mom therapy. She has been in and out of therapy for years, but has not been to a therapist in a few years now. I've lately been encouraging dad to try to get them both to go to some kind of therapy, either seperate or together. Their relationship has been pretty rocky for as long as I can remember due to moms condition. I don't know why mom stopped going to therapy, or if she's given up on it now. She'd like to take a year off to get therapy every day full time, but that's been difficult. A few of you are saying that I'm enableing my moms condition. How would I go about not enableing it without giving her full on nervous meltdowns?
EDIT 2: I mentioned this in a comment, and was asked to add it here. Our kitchen had a bug problem last year, so moms wanting the kitchen to be perfectly clean to prevent the problem coming back might actually be an appropriete response in a situation where it would otherwise not have been. We HAVE upped the cleanliness-standards since, re-furnishing the kitchen and getting bug-proof containers, and the problem's not come back since.


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