You should love someone for who they are. But at the same time we cant help who we are and arent attractive to. Whether it be race or weight. Im open minded and not shallow at all. And i want to hear what you all think about what turns you off or your expectations might be. It could be holding a door for a girl or owning a car or wanting the guy to pay for everything or having him make the first move. Its common chivalry or courting. But we've changed with the times as society has showed and taught us. Along way from going steady. Ppl hook up and have one night stands. But what makes someone not dating material or not want to have sex with? What do u find gross or annoying, a pet peeve? Is there a type of person youre just not into? Do clothes or a job matter? Cuz if u truly love someone or have a good partner, can u ignore the lack of and bad habits. l'll tell u mine if u tell me yours

Someone whiny won't git the time of day from me....we all have our hardships and stories, there is a time and place to share those but whining disgusts me

Lol

I agree i dont like someone that wants pity all the time, i dont want someone that doesnt have good hygeine or that is lazy....all turn offs for me

Prima donnas, drama queens, and "look at me" types need not apply.

Society has molded into us what both men and women want 99% of the time it is physical attraction. If that is not there the individual will not give them the time of day. Wrong or right?

@CowboyJ: Yeah i agree. But thats not the way it should be. At the same time i would want to be with someone im at least attractive to. And that may be a lot of different. But we all make up unreal qualities that our dream person would be. Like for me id prefer a woman shorter and weighs less than me. Cuz im not a manly man. So it would be hard to take care or keep safe someone stronger and taller than me. It could bruise me ego, make me insecure and intimidate me if not lol

@ future I admire your honesty but those days are long gone there used to be a time when that applied now it stil lies within most of us men and some women but on the whole it doesnt and i find that wrong i am a manly man and i still find to this day some women that want to do IT for themselves

True...until the individual decides that "society" doesn't know its ass from a hole in the ground, and decides to, well, be an individual :)

Here! Here! couldn't have said i better myself!