UPDATE: I [24F] am at the end of my rope with my wife [27F].

Hello, everyone.
I wrote here two months ago about my relationship with my wife. She was a hoarder and had a litany of other issues that were above my pay grade. I asked Dating.mobi if I should leave by July 1, and it was unanimous that I absolutely should.
I didn?t leave July 1.
I left the night of June 30.
The cleaning didn?t get done, surprising literally no one. We were driving to our apartment and I told her that I was really crestfallen about July 1.
?Why? Is that a bad date for you or something??
I was furious, but kept it to myself. I told her how I felt, and I reminded her of my deadline. I told her that I was moving out and that I was done.
She cried and cried and cried, and begged for a week to clean the apartment to ?show that she was committed to this marriage?. I said that she was free to do it, but I wasn?t going to sleep there during that, and I moved in with my friend. We agreed to reassess the condition of the apartment Sunday morning.
She told me how spiritually edifying it was to clean. I was really optimistic for a bit.
Wednesday comes and my FIL calls me, frantic. He?s like a dad to me. He tells me that my wife emailed him (which she never talks to him unless she has to), and I asked why. He told me that she begged him to tell me to ?come back home?. He remarked that it was bizarre, but I was incensed. ?No, FIL, it?s not bizarre, it?s ****ty. She?s trying to leverage you though our relationship to get me back.?
Saturday comes and she sends me a message on Facebook saying ?you know, it doesn?t look as good as I wanted it to physically, but I feel like I?ve made a lot of progress emotionally and isn?t that what matters??
I told her that such progress would have been appreciated two years ago, but I had to walk- I couldn?t do it any more.
She spent money online with our card without informing me on yarn and we had a disagreement about it. I told her that I wanted the bank account closed, but she ?couldn?t bear to see me in person?. I redirected my checks to a new account instead.
It had been weeks and I finally went back to get my things and it got a lot worse. There was a water leak in the carpet, the litter boxes weren?t taken care of since I took care of them the day I left, and she managed to move the microwave into her bedroom. The latter was particularly surprising because she refused to move anything heavier than 10 lbs because of a cited rotator cuff injury for years and yet got a 40 lbs microwave into her room.
I reported the conditions to my MIL, who co-signed the lease with us. She called me back to bemoan ?what am I going to do about my daughter? You don?t understand how hard it is to have to think about how to take care of her!?
I snapped at MIL about her nonsense. She asked me what she should do about my ex-wife, feeding her histrionic personality. I told her that I had no idea, but she signed papers 27 years ago that made it her responsibility and not mine.
I?m happily living with my friend. Her and I are currently figuring out what we are, but we?re being supportive of each other and making each other lives easier. We both just celebrated birthdays (happy quarter-century!) and that was perfect.
I?ve been told that my ex-wife has had a much more rigid and stoic affect since I left. MIL told me that she didn?t even say she missed me. ?It?d be nice if she came back.?
I heard from FIL that they?re mad that the car I have is in my name; it was given to me as a graduation present, and was an old family car.
I start my new job tomorrow. I?ve been getting ready all last week and I am so nervous but so excited.
I?m really glad I left.
TL;DR: My wife begged me for her last second chance, still didn?t do anything. Tried to get her dad to bend my arm to come back. She wrecked the apartment even more since I left, so I notified MIL. MIL is more concerned about herself than her daughter. I?m happy with my friend and I start my big girl job tomorrow, and thank God.
EDIT: I made this clarification in the comments, but it needs to be said- I was estranged from my friend when I got with my wife. I was disowned for being gay by my family and had to immediately leave college and sought refuge with my ex-wife, and my friend and I fell out of contact. We got into contact again this year when I was interviewing for jobs in the area where she lived, not knowing that she was there. I?m trying to figure out how we?re going to be roommates in the long-term, and for how long, etc. Logistics.


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