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Men who chose to advance their careers at a young age at the expense of their social lives. How did (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
16-May-19 11:43 am
Men who chose to advance their careers at a young age at the expense of their social lives. How did it turn out?

I am 26 years old. About a year and a half ago, I took a promotion about an hour and a half away from all my family and friends where I knew nobody. My first full year in the job (at age 25) I made $90k and this year I am on pace to make about $105k. I've been able to pay off all my debt, shovel money into my retirement savings and still have excess to be able to afford basically whatever I want within reason and have an emergency fund while saving for a house.
Financial security is important to me as I saw my parents struggle with money when I was growing up. I want to advance my career while I can and make sure that when the time comes to start a family I can support them comfortably and I also want to be able to retire comfortably which is why I think starting young was important with compounding interest and shoveling money into my 401k.
I also travel a bit in my job and I think now is the good time to do it because I'm not tied down.
With that being said, I feel like I am missing out on a lot of things that people my age should be doing. I am able to get home on weekends fairly often to hang with friends, but I'm missing out on things like random Tuesday quizzos or going to watch the game with my boys. Dating has also been hard because I'm very busy and I work remotely so I dont meet local people at work.
I'm in better financial position than my friends are and I'm hoping that long term this grants me the ability to have some more fun.
But sometimes, I wonder, is it worth it? Should I focus more on my social life while I'm young and not worry about saving for retirement and money in general as much? For all I know I could die tomorrow or when I'm 40 and its all for nothing?
Just looking for perspectives of others who did what I did and what would you change and how it worked out long-term.
tl;dr chose to focus on career over social life at a young age where social life should be booming


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