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[UPDATE] My [29F] roommate's [24F] girlfriend [23F] moved in with us in January. She brought a dog w (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
11-Apr-19 5:40 pm
[UPDATE] My [29F] roommate's [24F] girlfriend [23F] moved in with us in January. She brought a dog we weren't expecting.

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...moved_in_with/
So I finally had enough. One Sunday a few weeks ago, my roommates left without warning while I had just settled in to get my homework done. The dog barked his head off for a good hour before I packed up my backpack and spent the rest of the day at Starbucks so I could concentrate. I called my mom and vented my frustration before cooling off and sending a well-thought out and vetted text message to let them know I was pretty upset about it, and that home has become a place of extra stress for me the last several months. I added that it isn't fair to the dog to be left so distraught all the time. The text was long, but rational, and I said that the dog needed to find a new home.
Fast forward three days when they finally decided to acknowledge me aside from little pleasantries in passing. They told me that the dog wasn't going anywhere, but that they would look into getting a dog sitter for the mornings they both left before I did. Ideal? Not really, but at that point I was ready to hear their options. It's only two days a week that he wakes me up before I need to be. They said it was a financial burden. Okay, I understand that... but having a special needs dog is a financial burden to begin with, and that should have been considered before even bringing him home in the first place.
Fast forward again almost a month to today. They have not found a dog sitter, and I'm not even sure they have even looked. With the end of the semester approaching, they know that my schedule will be changing very soon, and I'll likely be gone on the same days as my classmate, eliminating the mornings in which I'll be woken up by his barking. But now they've escaped taking any responsibility or showing any remorse for what a **** situation this is. On top of that, they have installed a nanny cam in the living room so that both of them can watch the dog and talk to him from their phones while they are away. I get the sentiment, but also I live in this house too. At any point while they are watching the dog, I could be spied upon also, and that's really discomforting.
To top it off, I woke up this morning to his barking, and at this point I need to be up and moving anyway. They've started leaving pee pads out for him to use during the day while they're gone, and at 7 AM, mere minutes after everyone has left for the day, he's left a nice watery pile of **** on one of them and peed on the other. I don't want to clean these up, nor do I want to leave them in the house all day for my cat to traipse through or even eat (I hope to god that isn't a thing she does but who knows). This is not my responsibility, and now my home is going to smell like **** all day. And now that both pads are soiled, is he going to decide he won't use them anymore and eliminate on the floor? He's been having some bowel trouble lately, are people going to come home to diarrhea? I'm about to be gone from 9-6, so luckily someone will be home before me to find it, but the thought grosses me out.
Anyway. I faced my fears of confrontation, only to be passively disrespected. At this point I'm looking at ways to get out of this lease and move out with another classmate in July, with the stipulation that we won't have dogs and any significant others can visit but won't be living with us. I'm completely at my wit's end. Still.

TL;DR; : Calmly and politely confronted the roommates about the dog, they decided to do nothing.
EDIT: thank you all for your advice. I’ve emailed my landlord about my options for moving out, and he’s stated that I can sublease my room.
I’m going to call a group meeting tonight with the other girls and reiterate my concerns, express the new concerns about his incontinence and potential damage to the floors, and explain that I’m looking at moving out. I’ll also explain that they need to come clean to management about the dog, or that they can move out to a pet friendly place, and that if they don’t, I will, since I should not be held at all responsible for violating the terms of the lease.


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