[UPDATE] Me [31F] with my husband [35 M] married 2 years together for 10. He doesn't want his kids to be like me.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...rried_2_years/
It took me 3 more years, but I finally left him last year.
This post helped me see how much was wrong in our relationship, but I was still so hesitant to leave.
We had pets and a beautiful home together and I loved his family and we had so many inside jokes and plans for the future.
But eventually it was all just too much for me to take any longer. The day after his parents' 50th anniversary party, I told him I wanted a divorce. I just couldn't see myself living like that for 50 years.
I moved from the suburbs to the city with a friend. I rekindled some old friendships from high school and made a bunch of new friends who I am so thankful for. He kept the dog, I took the cats.
I thought my life was ending but it was just beginning.
I told my (very religious) family and they were all understanding and supportive. I've maintained friendships with a good number of our mutual friends, friendships I was worried about losing.
I'm working on my masters degree and volunteering and experiencing life and love and art and beauty like I never thought was possible.
I met a guy at a friend's punk rock show and we hit it off, but we are taking things very slowly. He is wonderful and so kind to me.
If you are in an abusive relationship, please don't be afraid to leave.
It gets so much better. I still miss him from time to time. I feel guilty about getting divorced, guilty for wasting my parents money on a failed marriage. I miss his parents. I miss my dog.
But I am SO MUCH happier. My future feels uncertain, but that is better than feeling like a death sentence.
Thank you so much to everyone who offered advice and sympathized and even had harsh words for me deciding to stay.
tl;dr: Left my abusive husband. Life is much better.
EDIT: for those saying it didn’t sound that bad or abusive, you should know it got worse. It did escalate to physical abuse, us sleeping separately/no intimacy for a year.

If you think you are too old or too much trouble or have too much baggage or are too much anything, please believe that it is possible to find love again. Both loving yourself and having someone else love you

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