I (23F) just discovered the real cost of my wedding ring. My issue is not the cost, but the elaborate lie my husband (29M) has been telling me, my friends, and family.

Me and my husband have been married for almost nine months, been together for a little over 2 years and have known each other since I was 18. We have had our fair share of issues but nothing truly detrimental to our relationship. We have the same values, both try to be as open as possible and are loyal to each other each and every day.
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So, a little back story to how I discovered the cost of my ring. When me and my husband first started dating I had used his email to forward him or myself something, I can't remember exactly since it was so long ago. I noticed he had a bunch of emails he had sent to himself with the subject line as his sons name. I shouldn't have opened his personal emails but curiosity got the best of me. I really wasn't trying to snoop or catch him doing anything wrong, I just noticed my step-son's name and was curious. It was a bunch of really precious old photos of him, it looked like he was trying to save them off an old phone by forwarding them to his email. In the midst of all the photos were several selfies of his ex in bras or in the car or just being cute. The emails were from before we started dating so I asked my husband if he could please delete any photos that he had of her. He said sure and deleted them and I 100% believed him. He also said he deleted any pictures of her from his photo gallery on his Mac. Well, a just few weeks ago he synced his iCloud up to his phone for the first time and a lot of pictures of her showed up in his photo album. He said he wasn't sure how that happened (and I believed him because the Cloud ****ing confuses me) and he immediately deleted them.
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Now, heres where I ****ed up. I got onto his computer last night because its in our room and I didn't want to get up to go to the office computer and I noticed his email was left log in. This really small, awful, jealous part of me told me to look through the old images on his email to see if the pictures of her were really gone. When I realized they were deleted I was relieved but also felt guilty. But I just kept looking. I should've stopped. My husband has truly never done anything to make me doubt him but I was home alone and feeling insecure about the photo thing and started being nosy. The first thing I went to was his account and I noticed there was a tab for Payments and Subscriptions and, god damnit, I just clicked it. They were all little silly purchases like pizza and movies. But then I saw a purchase from about a month before we got married last year and my heart sank. It was a purchase from eBay with the title "14K White Gold Finish 2 Carat Enhanced Diamond..." Etc. Etc. for $89.00.
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My husband surprised me with this ring about a week before we got married. It's beautiful, its shiny, and its huge. He told me it was a Tiffany and "Tiffany and Co." is even etched right inside of it. He refused to tell me what it cost. The ring I wore through out our engagement was a very dainty, inexpensive ring from Etsy that I absolutely ADORED, so this new ring was jaw dropping to say the least. (Also, we still kept our money separate at this point. We agreed to combine our finances after we got married. We were living rent free with his Dad for about 6 months so we could save up for the wedding and a nicer place. He got a job for a weapons manufacturing company and was making about 3x an hour more than me. My husband was never stingy with his money and provided our family with whatever we wanted or need. I mainly used my income for my car payment and savings for the wedding.)
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He showed that ring off to my whole family, his whole family, really anyone that congratulated us. At our wedding it was the only thing anyone was talking about. He got drunk and bragged to my best friend about "how much it cost" and how he secretly had been saving up for it for months and even had to finance it for a while without me ever knowing. Everyone was impressed and I was actually really proud of him. I didn't care so much about the materialistic side of it but seeing my husband finally have a great job and being proud of the things he could give his family made me so happy.
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My best friend asked me if I wanted to know how much it cost. I told her I didn't want to know. She said she respected that but if she were me she "wouldn't even risk wearing it and would keep it tucked away except for special occasions" I told my husband about it and he was beaming. He said "Lets just say, your car loan isn't much more expensive than that ring." HOLY ****. My car loan is a THIRTEEN GRAND meaning this ring is the nicest thing Ive ever owned. I even caught MYSELF telling people who would comment on it how my ring was a Tiffany! and how my dear husband surprised me with it!
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And now, I am embarrassed. It's a $90 ring off eBay, which I confirmed by copy and pasting the purchase description directly into the search bar on eBay. There it was. Same exact ring. Im not at all embarrassed at the price of the ring or the way it looks, just embarrassed that my husband has been lying to people and so have I. I can't talk to anyone about this because I know they will judge him and he would be SO embarrassed. So, I just don't know what to do. I've thought about it and I think my only options are:
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A) Confront him with my evidence, tell him I know the truth and ask him to explain his reasoning. This is the most uncomfortable option.
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B) Casually ask him if he has the Tiffany papers that confirm its authentic or tell him that I want the Tiffany Blue Box to keep with our wedding stuff or something like that. Basically, corner him into admitting it.
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or C) Say nothing. Keep the ring put away because of it's "price" and never brag about it again. I would wear my engagement ring instead. Its darling anyways and I'm proud of it even if it is a $30 ring from Etsy! Its pretty and has a lot of sentimental value to me.
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UGH. I just don't know what to do and need advice. Also, why would he lie? How could he keep up such a lie??? Should I doubt his honesty about everything now? Sorry for this being so long, but it has really been eating me up inside.
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TL;DR: Discovered that the "designer" ring my husband has been gloating about for the entirety of out 9 month marriage is really a knock off he got off eBay for $89. My issue is not the price, but the fact that he has been lying straight to my face and our family and friends. Now, I don't know what to think or if i should trust him. I also don't know how I should handle the situation. The whole thing is extremely... cringey.
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Edit: Punctuation
Edit 2: yes the snooping was wrong. But to clarify I do not distrust my husband. I believe everything he tells me (obviously) and I was just being nosy. Also, the ex is not the baby mama. Just some girl he dated for a while before me. I was honest and just said I didn’t like seeing them and he deleted the photos without any hesitation. Their relationship was not one that was a huge part of his life.
Edit 3: I bought my husband a ring before we got married on an income that is 1/3 of his. I paid $600 and had to finance it so I could still pay my car and save for the wedding. I picked one made with some of the same materials they use to make aircrafts because he had just got his job at the weapons manufacturing (jets) company. Thinking about how much effort I put into his ring is currently making me really sad. I love my husband.


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