Am I (27F) leading on my close friend (30M)? [UPDATE]

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I decided to just take some time and sit with the words for a bit and give my friend some space.
Original plan was so slowly ebb away (as it wouldn't cause as much drama) but as with friends you have shared a decade with, you tend to share favorite places, and are invited to family gatherings.
I saw my friend at a family birthday party. I didn't know he'd be there, nor was it like I was in charge of who invited him.
I try to keep my distance, hanging out with others, but of course (because I didn't tell him my plan to just end this) he comes over and starts talking with us.
Eventually... we get yet another friend doing the whole "Ugh, you guys are so good with one another, I see you together all the time. Why aren't you dating? Give X (my niece) a cousin."
We kinda looked at one another and I can ****ing see the excitement of this talk. He starts talking that "We're working up to it," and I shake my head and just blurted out, "I'm not attracted to him, nor do I ever want kids."
Which. Turned into this weird argument, about why would I say that in front of them (the mutual friend), and why am I not attracted (reasons lacking again) to him. I'm not a super confrontational person, so I just shrug and try to politely and sternly explain, "I'm just not. I don't think I need a reason."
We let the exchange sizzle down, and eventually it's just me and him again. Not wanting to really start another argument, I just head to my niece's area and start talking to her, but he follows and literally starts placing his hands on my waist, and at this point I had to stop and firmly grab his wrist and shove it down.
I told him I do not appreciate the touch, and he was starting the whole "I can't help it," and it angered me, so I just told him, "Fine then, I'm leaving, because I'm not going to ruin this party nor am I going to be uncomfortable." I start heading out and he's following after me, and I had to wait until we were well and away from the party before I could talk again.
I told him I wasn't interested, and he asked again. At this point, I told him I'm not interested in being a desperate man's last resort (because he constantly complains that other girls don't like him), and being around him is undoing the hard work I've made in therapy when it came to the touching.
He apologizes, promises to work on it, to make the effort, and I'm just- I'm someone who looks at the words people say, so hearing him say "he'd make an EFFORT" told me he was never even trying to start with. At this point I'm just angrier and almost crying, and he's trying to comfort me with a hug, but I just held him at arms length.
I told him I wanted space. I am upset, and do not want him texting me/talking to me. I told him I'd let him know if I want to stay friends, but right now, I want the space, and I need him to respect that.
He reluctantly agreed, trying to guilt me by saying he'd been uncomfortable with my presence anyways, but I don't really care. I vocalized my discomfort, he could have done the same.
I'm hurt and angry, but don't have any real intention of seeing him. The touching is making me anxious, more so than ever, and I think I need to unload to my therapist about it. I'm hurting because it's ten whole years of memories that now have this ugly stain on it, and I'm just ready to move on. If I'm more comfortable without him than with him, I think making new friends will easier.
I'm going to listen to my comfort for now. Thank you guys for the words and harsh truth. As much as it hurt, I needed to hear it.
TL;DR: Guy friends does stupid **** again, and I took your advice about ending the friendship. Everything hurts, but I'm hopeful about making new friends.
EDIT TO ADD:
Thank you all for the overwhelming support. I'm shocked to hear that others go through the same thing and it makes me a teeny bit better to know I'm not alone in the situation.
Therapy is going to be very important for me in the next sessions. Thank you all so much.
SECOND EDIT:
While the comments come from a good place, I'd like to state that I don't consider the touches as sexual assault. I know legally what it/entails, but the labeling bothers me.


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