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My [20F] boyfriend [19M] is so much smarter than me and it’s starting to bother me (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
30-Dec-18 3:00 pm
My [20F] boyfriend [19M] is so much smarter than me and it’s starting to bother me

let me just start off by saying he’s the best guy i’ve ever dated. I’m a year and a half older than him but the only time he’s ever seemed immature is when he’s overly happy and giggly like a kid. He always works out problems with me and truly is the best guy i’ve ever dated. He’s just so intelligent that it’s making me feel inferior.
He has never and never would call me stupid or make me feel dumb. Matter of fact, he does not even admit he’s smart. But he is. I knew him in high school and he was in some of the same classes as me despite being a year below. He also skipped a grade and got 10 off a perfect on the SAT. Even the way he talks is so thought out that sometimes I think he’s a robot (in a good way). He was a very poor kid and comes from a rough past since he grew up in the projects, but all that has done is humbled him and made him one of the kindest people I know.
My problem is that sometimes I just feel so stupid around him. He is majoring in computer science and minoring in math. He has a whiteboard desk that he writes on when working out problems and I couldn’t even begin to understand half the stuff he writes on it, even when I try. I’m majoring in journalism and english, and although I don’t think it’s a walk in the park, I know it’s easier than what he’s doing, and he doesn’t admit that. He says people have different skills and that anyone who’s claimed to be stupid can learn and be considered smart. He helps me with my schoolwork despite me being a college year ahead of him and I’ve never seen him lose a debate. I honesty get a little envious that I could never be as smart as that, and when I try to bring it up, he simply says that I’m just glorifying his intelligence because he’s kind of good at numbers, which doesn’t mean much coming from him even if it’s genuine. He compliments my writings and even peer edits them with me, claiming i’m a 10x better writer than he’ll ever be, despite him having 2 published papers in our universities database. I just feel frustrated bc I can’t shake this feeling despite him being an amazing guy.
TL;DR: Boyfriend is the best but I still feel bad dating him because he’s just so much smarter than me.


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