Update: Me [35 F] with my husband [39 M] (18 years), my father is offering to give me a downpayment for a house with conditions that are offensive to my husband.

Previous post: https://old.reddit.com/r/relationshi...ars_my_father/
We decided to put the issue of accepting a down payment on hold because we may be moving in a year or two!
While my husband was initially very against moving to a more affordable location away from his paradise, he has given it serious consideration, and is now on board with certain conditions. Namely, I deal with my depression issues prior to moving.
He spoke to someone he respects who did something similar for his wife (life long surfer whose entire career revolved around surfing moved away from the ocean because of his wife). I wasn't in on the conversation, but the jist of it was he told my husband he got over a decade of playtime and living his dream life while I supported him and now it's time for my husband to do something to support me (emotionally).
It may be awhile before we can move and it's still not 100%, but I feel much better knowing that my husband does care and is willing put aside his desires for me.
Overall, this made me love my husband even more and I am very lucky to have him.
Tl;dr: turns out communicating priorities and needs to a partner actually works!


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