UPDATE: I (25f) have been dating BF (26 m) for nearly a year and he is not sure if he loves me. How long do I wait before I give up and move on?

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...1_months_he_is
I didn't get a lot of attention on this previous post but I got some valuable advice and figured I should post an update.
John got back from his vacation mid June and I didn't bring anything up right away since I didn't want to start charging in with relationship questions after his adventure, and honestly I was enjoying being with him and didn't want to ruin the moment with potential breaking up.
About 2 weeks ago, John asked me to move in with him. I think he could tell I was uncertain when he asked me about it because he said that the conversation we had before he left on vacation was nothing to worry about and that he didn't feel ready to say it yet, but he was "there".
I started talking to him a bit more about it, and he said that when he was on vacation he thought maybe we should break up, but the more he thought about it the more miserable he was. And that if he was miserable at the idea of not being with me, that there was no reason we shouldn't be together.
I know that people said in the previous post that if you're unsure if you're in love, you're not in love. But I think it depends on the individual, the relationship, etc. Ive been in those described "all consuming" love relationships and with them I was met with toxicity, manipulation, and abuse. With John it's different. Everything is sweeter, gentler. I can see in his actions every day that he really, truly, cares about me and my well being. And it's not in an all consuming, lightning bolt, romantic kind of way. It feels like we built a strong foundation before the thunderstorm came, so when/if that all consuming feeling hits us, we still have the relationship to fall on once the storm ends.
I'm not worried about John. The word "love" was a point of contention going in to this relationship and I'm in no rush to have the words forced out. Everything that he says and does shows how much he cares about me, and that's enough. I'm okay with our relationship not being linear or following traditional "steps".
Thank you for all of your comments beforehand guys, I appreciate the support!!
TLDR - time apart via vacation seemed to help bring things to focus for him. We've decided to go ahead and move in with eachother, and we're celebrating our 1 year of dating tonight with a fancy ass dinner.


Source.

If he's not sure now, then he doesn't love you