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[UPDATE]Coworker in HR [30sF] with me [24F]. She told an employee not affiliated with HR about my co (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
14-Jul-18 4:22 pm
[UPDATE]Coworker in HR [30sF] with me [24F]. She told an employee not affiliated with HR about my confidential sexual harassment case

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TLDR: I left the company. **** yeah.
I'm always reading updates and I'm always in awe at how much support people are willing to give, and I'm so glad to have been on the receiving end of that support, so thank you. When I initially made the post I was way too scared to actually leave my company, but reading all of the advice and generally shocked/angry responses really made me evaluate my situation. It's been about 5 or so months since my last post, and I always love a good update so here goes.
About 3 months or so after I had found out HR was leaking details about my sexual harassment, a coworker completely unrelated to my team/work came up to me and had told me that my manager was telling her he was unhappy with my work performance (this was not in any sort of professional setting/purpose/meeting, they were having a conversation as friend to friend). I had known he was dissatisfied with my performance for some time, as we had talked about it, but what really angered me was again, that toxic culture where employees share information to other employees who are not privy to that information. I was especially disgusted because my manager had given me the most support during my sexual harassment. That was definitely my last straw, and that's when I started looking to get the hell out of dodge. During my job search I started realizing how underpaid and unappreciated my work was. There was no room for growth.
As of today I've signed a new offer letter, with a 35% salary increase from my current pay, great benefits, good title, and work that actually interests me with opportunities for actual mentorship. Of course I won't burn any bridges with my current company, I'm going to tie up my work, hand off what I need to, and make it as smooth and professional of an exit as possible. I want to thank you guys again for all the advice you have given me. It took awhile for me to come around, but I finally did it. And I'm excited to move upward and onward.
I feel oddly sad, guilty even. It almost feels like leaving an abusive relationship. I felt guilty for wanting to leaving for so long so I put up with toxic coworkers, a hostile environment, and ****ty pay for an extra 5 months longer than I had to. I feel free now, but at the same time I feel a little melancholy. Thank you all again.


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