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Me [28/M] and my Wife [26/F] of 8 Years, Update Post (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
10-Apr-18 10:12 am
Me [28/M] and my Wife [26/F] of 8 Years, Update Post

OP Here.
Gist of my original post was that my wife (26/F) and I (28/M) had split up (after 8 years) due to my failing mental health and the stresses it had caused the relationship. Well here's an update to what all went on over a month later.
Alright, so I was really freaked out and heartbroken when I made the post, as I had never lived alone before or lived without someone controlling most aspects of my life.
It turns out, I have very simple tastes. I can cook and do so well. I'm now properly medicated for Bipolar instead of Depression and am on my second month of them. I'm living in my own place, with my cat, and I'm keeping it clean.
My coworkers, my family and even myself have all noticed an excellent change in my outlook and behavior. Coworkers tell me I'm happier, more relaxed and more fun to work with. My family is mostly excited because this is the most they've seen of me since I started my relationship 8 years ago, but they also mention I don't seem so nervous anymore.
Personally, I don't think I've ever felt more terrified. I expect so much more from myself and my surroundings. I scarcely know what to do with so much extra energy and freedom. Paying for a place to live turned out to be way easier than I had been led to believe too. My family aren't mean spirited people like I had been led to believe, and it turns out I'm worth more as a person than just what I can cook or what my body can bring my partner.
I still am not entirely sure what to do with myself, but I've started off by getting in touch with a few mental health groups in my area, trying out karaoke (was super excited to learn I can sing well according to the folks who heard me), and generally doing my best to stay in touch with my family and old friends. My coworkers are very kind too, and they even helped me move! I do have to decline their invitations to hook up with friends they know or downloading dating apps; I just don't feel ready for something like that. I'm taking this all on with a more growth-oriented mindset and am trying to get out of my comfort zones, confronting my negative assumptions about myself and the lies I had been told to control me.
This is only my second time posting here, and I know folks may not really care, but it feels good to have some kind of positive update to things that just a month ago felt like the end of my world. As for how she's handling things, she's pretty much stopped talking to me, except to complain how much everything costs or about a mobile game she's playing.
TL:DR
I think things are gonna be okay, but I still don't know how to further this whole "I'm a real person who's worth more than my body" thing. It's a lot of freedom and it's scary as ****. Doing what I can and am definitely in a better spot than last post here, but I'm open to suggestions on further improvement
Edit: Thank you for your kind words and advice. :)


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