UPDATE: I [30 M] am considering divorcing my wife [31F] of 10 months. I love her dearly, but am afraid we can't be happy together

Link to original post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...ife_31f_of_10/
First off thank you all so much for all your kind words and advice. After giving it a lot of thought, I think things are going to work out. I have to remember it has only been 10 months, and that I asked my wife to basically turn her entire life around to come live with me, which she gladly did, and that she is going through so much. I also am not tolerating any negativity from my family about her, and they have actually been reaching out to her now to compliment her on crafty things she has posted to instagram, etc and the relationship between them is beginning to improve.
I am also finding ways to get back into hobbies I gave up when I got married, for example, she can't rock climb, and has no desire to, but she has said she would love to come with me while I do it, as she enjoys watching me do it, and I can talk to her and we can hang out between the brief climbs I do. Honestly anything that gets her out of the house she is now happy to do.
We are talking and working out how to get her and possibly both of us to therapy, and have scheduled an appointment with her gynecologist to get pelvic floor PT when she feels ready. In the meantime, I am focusing all intimacy on her, and giving her positive feedback for even small sexual things, like a good make out session, or a sexy bath together in candle light. I realize now that while I didn't mean to, I think I was pressuring her too much for penetrative intercourse, and that further hurt her self esteem, and she has told me she feels like she "can't please me." I can't imagine how much feeling that must have hurt her on top of the lack of a job, loneliness, etc. For now, my priority is to make sure she knows that I am happy with her, just as she is, and support her through this hard time.
I feel at peace with this decision, and while life is still hard, I do not dread coming home anymore, and I don't have that sinking feeling in the bottom of my stomach I had been having for weeks when I was convinced this wouldn't work out. Things are not easy for us, and they may never be, but we love each other, and are doing what we have to to make things work. I know my parents were about an inch away from divorce 5 years ago, and now, they are in the best years of their entire marriage. I truly believe better times are ahead, and even if they aren't I am confident that we can be happy together, regardless the circumstances.
TLDR: Things are better, I got the advice I needed. Thank you!


Source.

Sooooo. All you needed was advice from random internet people in order to not get a divorce?


You're doomed. You either were posting for attention or you should've never gotten married in the first place.

These "update" threads suuuuuuuuuck......