[UPDATE] My BF [27 M] found a video of my ex BF [23 M] masturbating to my nudes [24 F] from when we were together with my ex, now he is upset

Hi everyone, the prologue is in the link below
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...my_ex_bf_23_m/
First of all, thank you for all your comments. You made me feel like I'm not alone. You helped me a lot psychologically, and I feel confident about myself and my decisions.
Almost everybody told me to break up with him, but I didn't. Maybe you will feel worried but I still considered everything you said. I confronted him with every problematic thing that he did and said to me. I explained how his behavior is manipulative. I explained him that I feel like I'm abused psychologically. I said I want to break up with him, and I explained the similarities of psychological abuse and physical abuse. I explained like in the cases of physical abuse, you always believe the abuser will change and forgive them. I explained that I feel this about him, and even if I forgive him, his behavior will continue, like it does in some physical abuse cases. Since he is not very "woke" about the psychological abuse and an idea of a healthy relationship, I tried to give examples about physical abuse cases. I sent him links from "loveisrespect.org". I gave detailed information about how his behavior is wrong. Tried to explain him the best I can.
We never had this conversation, and because I was abused and kind of scared and pushed down about stuff, I was never confident enough to talk about the stuff that bothers me about our relationship. He was devastated to learn that I felt this way. I told him that it was not easy for me to explain how I feel, because I was afraid of the reaction I will get from him. That's why I never spoke up about the stuff that disturbed me in this relationship. He promised me to try to change himself, not to do the same mistakes again. He sent me additional links about abuse, he tried to get his own education. He also read stuff about open relationships, too, which he was very judgmental of. My relationship with my ex bf was open, and I think it was a part of why he's so self-concious about himself. I think he really wants to try to get better and educate himself. This is not my final decision, I'm just giving him a chance, I hope something like this never happens again. He asks me a lot of questions about what is right and what is not right to do. I try to explain him that the thing that only matters is mutual respect. He needs to respect my own personal life and decisions.
Even if things don't go better with him, I'm still glad that he makes the effort of educating himself so maybe even if we break up in the future for whatever reason, he will be an educated person, a better person and he will be more cautious in his oncoming relationships.
I'm still not 100% sure, obviously. I don't know what will happen. But we are both making the effort. We will see. I considered the fact that we started our relationship with mutual lack of trust, and his psychological status is not good nowadays. We had different trust issues about my exes that also generated from me, because I basically cheated on my ex bf with my current bf. I get that it is a hard trust issue to erase from your memory. We will see what happens, if we will be able to get past all of these things.
tl;dr: i explained his abusive behavior in detail, gave examples, gave links and he started to educate himself and he is very sorry, so i decided to forgive him this time considering i created some of the trust issues that he has now


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This should be a Lifetime movie.....