[Update] My [20/M] girlfriend [24/F] of 10 months got upset at me last night for masturbating instead of having sex with her. She cried about it, and now I'm really confused on what to do.

Okay, so I got slammed for being insensitive and lacking empathy in the original post, because I called my girlfriend a toddler and said she was emotionally immature. But I completely agree with what was said about me. I did sound like an ******* to my girlfriend. I'd never call her the things I said in my post to her in person. I was frustrated while writing it, and for some reason I thought that since my girlfriend was older than me that she should’ve been able to handle my rejection better.
I was able to talk to her shortly after submitting the original post. My girlfriend went into detail about why she felt so upset when I rejected her. She told me that sex had a lot of meaning for her, and that when I chose to masturbate over having sex she felt like I didn't love her, or find her attractive anymore. I've never viewed sex as an extension of love, so her explanation helped me understand why she felt so hurt. I apologized for making her feel upset. I told her that I didn't know sex was that important for her and I reassured my girlfriend that I loved her and still found her to be attractive & sexy.
We came to a compromise. She said that if I didn't want to have sex with her but wanted to masturbate instead, she would help me get off. I thought that was a great idea (and I think one of the replies I received recommended that). I guess my girlfriend and I had different views on sex, but sitting down and having an honest conversation about it has allowed us to be on the same page.
tl;dr: Talked to my girlfriend. She explained why my rejection made her feel so upset. I apologized for not understanding her feelings and told her that I didn't know how much importance she placed on sex. We made a compromise, she offered to help me masturbate as a way to share my pleasure with her. Things have been great ever since.


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Oh dude...i would have left your azz!! And how dare you get online calling her names cause YOU rejected sex from HER! Your "because she is older" statement shows how immature you really are. Wouldn't have been any compromising from me.

You chose to jerk it over having actual sex? Hahaha!

This has happened to me a few times. I would get upset and sometimes still do.Then I realized...there's sometimes I'd rather masturbate too. It's nothing against my man...it's just easier to flick it and take a nap. I don't have to worry about pleasing someone else. It's not that big of deal as long as both partners are being satisfied regularly.

@Sparky: wanna know why she felt like that? Bc masterbation is usually a private and lonely act. She wants you to share all of you with her...