UPDATE: I [26f] am feeling checked out of my marriage [28m].

TL;DR (from my last post) I (26f) am feeling checked out of my marriage with my husband (28m). Is it possible to come back from feeling this was through counseling and work, or separating a more viable option?
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I first posted at the very start if the summer. This summer was great, awful, draining and one I that I am so happy to see go. My fall was full of transition and hopefully, my winter will just be full of relaxation.
My (26f) husband (28m) (together going on 6 years now) and I started marriage counseling the day after I first posted. At the start of the summer, he was very committed to counseling, to fixing us, to pulling his weight and helping me carry my hypothetical water, unfortunately, I was hurt, bitter and angry, and nothing seemed to change my mind. I was checked out and could not see any reason to check back in. I began sleeping on the couch, in the spare bedroom or at friends as often as possible. I tried my hardest to show and create physical distance.We continued to try dates, but they would always devolve into fights or dramatic and exhausting conversations.
His changes tended to be superficial as well. By that I mean he would fix the surface issues, like dishes and sweeping, and ignore the deep-seated issues we had. About a month into therapy my husband admitted that he has been unhappy for over 2 years, so six months before we even got married. I have tried for years to get him to see a therapist on his own, because I believed he had depression, but he always refused. He said that his unhappiness led him to disengage from us, made him disinterested in us, was the reason all he wanted to do was watch TV and check out. Him admitting that was like finding a puzzle piece that makes everything clearer. Now I understood why I tried so hard, why I felt so lonely and neglected. He still refused to go into individual counseling.
I was drained, hurt and began to realize that his depression had infiltrated our lives and marriage deeply. I realized my husband didn't know how I drink my coffee, or what I eat for breakfast. Doesn't know I hate mayo, or constantly spill liquids on myself. There are lots of things he does know, to be fair. But I realized he has been disinterested in everything, including me. And unless I specifically stated something, or we got into a fight about it, he wouldn't notice. Now I know this sounds silly, but I want the person who I have been with for 5 years to know how I drink my coffee or know I always put my hair up when I am stressed and trying to concentrate.
His disinterest was part of the reason I felt so naggy, crabby and on edge so often, because it was so incredibly hard to get through to him, it was partly why his interest in video games, beer, and DnD came before me. I also realized that my husband loved me in his own way, but his way wasn’t how I needed to be loved.
By fall I had begun to talk to him about separating and moving out. A talk that probably could have happened much sooner, but I still loved my husband and the life we created. It was incredibly hard to realize how broken it had become. I have lived on my own for 2 months now, and it is amazing. I am flourishing. My anxiety has decreased, I am able to solely focus on myself, my needs and wants and desires, and it is both overwhelming and fantastic.4
We have begun the process of divorcing. Which has been awful. Not because of how either of us is acting. But because it is just awful. It is tremendously difficult to realize how much this is hurting him, hurting me. It sucks completely to realize how a relationship can break apart and how someone I used to love so much, will no longer be apart of my life. But at the same time, I am looking forward to my future. There are times I am filled with panic and doubt, that I will be alone and I won’t find someone new. But I can’t let that fear hold me back, and stay in a marriage where I am so unhappy. That’s what I tell myself at least.I don’t know if I went into this summer and this process knowing that nothing would be able to fix us, knowing I was going to be reluctant. But I do know, I tried for a long time, and I became a bitter, unhappy and a sad version of myself. That isn’t who I want to be, nor is it someone he deserved to be married too.
I want to thank you all for your advice, support and chance to vent. I have read and re-read your comments countless times this summer. And screenshotted many of them and look to them quite frequently.
TL: DR: I (26f) moved out and divorcing my (28m) husband.


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Boy howdy, don't know how in the blue hell I woulda made another day without this update