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I [25F] lent my bf [26M] my work computer for his gaming, and now he refuses to let me use it, even (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (30 / M-F / Massachusetts)
14-Nov-17 8:12 am
I [25F] lent my bf [26M] my work computer for his gaming, and now he refuses to let me use it, even for work. Considering ending it, 1.5 years.

Hi guys, I'll leave some details vague as he's a Person as well.
Boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years, we live together. We met through friends and really clicked in terms of humor and interests. HOWEVER, there is one issue that I've always struggled with. Bf is a huge gamer and it takes up a huge amount of his time. It also means he'd prefer gaming over literally everything else-- dinner, friends, traveling, etc. He has basically said that he gets enough social interaction through his games (he plays with other people) and he doesn't feel the need to go out with physical friends.
This is really hard for me because I love meeting friends for drinks, hanging out, going hiking together, and things like that. However, I've been working as a consultant for 3 years now and my schedule is all over the place. I travel frequently and I can't give as much of my time to my bf either so I've always felt it evened out somewhat.
Well two weeks ago bf's desktop computer crapped out on him. Just completely died due to random reasons and it'd take a lot of money to fix, so bf is considering just buying a new one. He's not well-off though, so he wants to save for a bit so he can get the high-performance computer he wants. It was all fine with me until he approached me maybe 1 day after his computer broke asking to use my home office computer for his gaming. I told him to use my personal laptop at first (I don't use it as much) but he complained and whined and said that my personal laptop was unfit for gaming, and that my desktop computer is much nicer and much more powerful. Well, I need my desktop everyday when I work from home. I also have EVERYTHING work-related on it.
We argued for a bit and then he just majorly wore me down. He'd complain EVERY day about not being able to log onto his games, about how he misses his gaming friends, and how he's so bored. So I eventually caved and let him install the game on my computer. Since then, he's essentially taken it over and I have to beg and yell and basically push him off to get to my own computer. It's really annoying because this computer was strictly for my work, which means it has specially installed software to interact with our clients that I need to access every day. It also means I haven't been able to work from home despite work being especially busy. It's been a fight EVERY DAY to kick him off my computer. He'll say 30 more min and then hang onto it for 3 more hours.
It's gotten to the point where I no longer see his gaming habit as a minor annoyance. I just think he's hugely immature and kind of a child. Even if it is just a "social outlet" for him, I don't see why he can't restrict himself and deprive himself of gaming even for a day or two. It's making me completely reconsider the relationship because I don't think he'll change at all. But on the other hand I feel bad throwing away a 1.5 year relationship that was seemingly going well and satisfied both of us. What should I do?

tl;dr: Bf is a huge gamer but his own computer broke weeks ago. He begged me to use my work computer for gaming and now he won't let me use it for work. I'm furious and reconsidering the relationship due to his immaturity.


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