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My(27F) boyfriend (24M) has a history of cheating. I'm thinking of leaving, friends think I'm crazy. (by Sparky)
(30 / M-F / Massachusetts)
My(27F) boyfriend (24M) has a history of cheating. I'm thinking of leaving, friends think I'm crazy. Advice?
We've been together three months. We get along very well, have similar goals, it's all just been generally awesome and I've been falling for him hard.
Full disclosure: I had a serious boyfriend who cheated on me, so I'm paranoid as ****.
My boyfriend and I had a conversation last weekend that freaked me out. He was talking about his ex girlfriend, Shayla. (They broke up about a month before we started dating, so this is very, very recent)
They were together for 1 year and a half, and unhappy for most of it. I'd heard him mention another girl, Liza, that he'd dated for a few months, and was confused about the timeline. It turns out he dated (hooked up with?) Liza while he was with Shayla. Multiple times. Once, he even had sex with Liza, then went to his graduation ceremony, and then home, with Shayla.
I was disgusted, but tried to hide it. I asked how I could know that he wouldn't do the same to me. He said because he'd always been unhappy with Shayla, but was happy with me. All that tells me is that the minute we have a problem, he could cheat.
I probed a little more, and he said he had had sex with other girls while dating Shayla. But that it hadn't entered his head to cheat on me.
What also freaks me out is a conversation we'd had a month ago- he had been worried I'd cheat on him, and I said I wouldn't. "But you can't know that!" he told me. "You never know who you'll meet, or what you'll do! There's no way you can promise me that." Once again, that freaks me out- doesn't that just mean that HE can't promise that he won't cheat?
Basically, I think I should break up with him, because I can already predict how this relationship will end. My friends think that he is awesome (Everyone loves him. He's lovable as ****) and that I'm being paranoid and crazy.
TL;DR Should I break up with this guy? He cheated on his ex multiple times, and that relationship ended in early June. I think I'll be next if I stay.
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We've been together three months. We get along very well, have similar goals, it's all just been generally awesome and I've been falling for him hard.
Full disclosure: I had a serious boyfriend who cheated on me, so I'm paranoid as ****.
My boyfriend and I had a conversation last weekend that freaked me out. He was talking about his ex girlfriend, Shayla. (They broke up about a month before we started dating, so this is very, very recent)
They were together for 1 year and a half, and unhappy for most of it. I'd heard him mention another girl, Liza, that he'd dated for a few months, and was confused about the timeline. It turns out he dated (hooked up with?) Liza while he was with Shayla. Multiple times. Once, he even had sex with Liza, then went to his graduation ceremony, and then home, with Shayla.
I was disgusted, but tried to hide it. I asked how I could know that he wouldn't do the same to me. He said because he'd always been unhappy with Shayla, but was happy with me. All that tells me is that the minute we have a problem, he could cheat.
I probed a little more, and he said he had had sex with other girls while dating Shayla. But that it hadn't entered his head to cheat on me.
What also freaks me out is a conversation we'd had a month ago- he had been worried I'd cheat on him, and I said I wouldn't. "But you can't know that!" he told me. "You never know who you'll meet, or what you'll do! There's no way you can promise me that." Once again, that freaks me out- doesn't that just mean that HE can't promise that he won't cheat?
Basically, I think I should break up with him, because I can already predict how this relationship will end. My friends think that he is awesome (Everyone loves him. He's lovable as ****) and that I'm being paranoid and crazy.
TL;DR Should I break up with this guy? He cheated on his ex multiple times, and that relationship ended in early June. I think I'll be next if I stay.
Source.
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