All Forums >> Love Corner >> Relationship Issues

I [26F] am either a bad person, or ugly. Every guy I ever liked (or even remotely wanted to date) ha (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
4-Oct-17 7:51 pm
I [26F] am either a bad person, or ugly. Every guy I ever liked (or even remotely wanted to date) has rejected me. Feels so hopeless.

Hey Dating.mobi, I'm feeling a little depressed right now. I just deleted Tinder again. Really sorry if this gets emotional.
I'm 5'7 and I weight 149 pounds. I'd have been embarrassed to write that before but I feel like I need stark honesty this time. I don't think I'm fat, but maybe I am? Definitely this latest string of rejections has me tempted to overeat again and I've struggled with my weight in the past but I thought I was finally at a place of self-love and acceptance and that my size is what it is and I'm beautiful anyway as long as I eat healthy and exercise (because any other way of thinking makes me eat my misery) Starting not to believe it again.
Ever since I was 19, when I had my first crush, I've been rejected over and over again. By all different types of guys, tall, short, clever, sporty, outgoing, atttractive, unattractive (but I thought they were hot), shy, kind, confident, I've gone for every kind of guy and they all eventually fade away. Most of them I knew IRL and we were friends beforehand, some were only acquaintances, and now some are from online apps.
I used to dress a little crazy, but now I dress very conventionally and I like to think I do makeup pretty well (recently gotten more into it). I'd say I have an attractive face. Many of my friends and guys that I have dated have called me cute/pretty. Some have even said beautiful.
I teach kids around and under elementary school age (I'm super wholesome!), and I'm studying for a big exam related to a job in a more difficult field. I have lots of hobbies, I play piano, video games, judo...
I've learned to listen more, I can carry a conversation well, I can on rare occasions be funny and I almost always get asked out for a second or third date.
Occasionally guys have chased me but for whatever reason at the time I wasn't into them and now there isn't anyone like that. This time round on Tinder (my first time using this particular app actually), I got a guy who I went on 7 dates with, we had a semi relationship-talk on the 6th which didn't really go so well and then he asked me out again so I thought he was still interested but it turns out he just wanted to keep me as a friend. But he didn't say that, I had to get him to admit it. Since he admitted it he hasn't replied to my last message.
And I also went out with a player who I knew was a player but I was already hooked on the first date. We were FWBs for a while. Eventually I got the strength to cut it off after a few months. And of course, an endless string of first dates that didn't pan for whatever reason.
Sorry if this sounds really emotional, I just feel so hopeless and stupid, like there must be something big that I'm missing. What the f*** is wrong with me, do I have some huge psychopathic personality flag that I'm missing? I make friends very easily, why is a boyfriend such a hugely different step?
EDIT: A list of my bad traits. I'm scared I'm boring sometimes. I can be a little weird. I laugh at inappropriate times. I fart in my sleep (lol sorry). I have a savior complex, I'm always the one who has to help even though I don't know someone that well. I can get irritated easily by things like whistling, although usually never with the person I like. I'm quick to silently judge. I'm a gossip.

tl;dr: What the hell am I supposed to do differently?


Source.

 

 

 
 
Quick reply:

[Smilies]

RULES:
  • Be respectful at all times.
  • Be mature and act like an adult.
  • Respect different points of view.
  • Discuss ideas, not specific users.
  • Don't get personal.
  • No profanity.
  • No drama.
  • No thread hijacking.
  • No trolling.
  • No spamming.
  • No soliciting.
  • No duplicate posting.
  • No posting in the wrong section.
  • No posting of contact information.
  • Be welcoming to new users.
Repeated violations of the above will result in increasing temporary bans from the forum and an eventual permanent ban from the site. Basically, just be friendly and neighborly and all will be well.
Similar threads:
Top
Home
Give us feedback!

Login:

* Username:

* Password:

 Remember me


Forgot?