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Me [27 M] with my ex-fiance [24] was 4 years , how do I get her to believe that we are over and the (by Sparky)
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Me [27 M] with my ex-fiance [24] was 4 years , how do I get her to believe that we are over and the wedding of her dreams is not happening this Christmas
Split up from "Hayley" five weeks ago after she admitted cheating with her work colleague (but only after being caught in the act). Infidelity has always been a red line and as soon I knew the relationship was over.
I've had a pretty **** few weeks but my family have been around and kept me sane. I only told my mom, dad and brother the real reason why. Everyone else has been told that it just didn't work out and I did not want to go through with it any more. I announced the cancelling on all my social media accounts and we have written to all the guests.
She has just failed totally to accept that its over and the wedding if off and the relationship is no more. We (me, my parents, brother and friends) have all had walls of texts ranging from "I'm sorry", "it didn't happen", "it did happen but it was done off", "I hate you", "I love you for ever", "what time do I tell my dad for the suit fitting". After I blocked her number she got a new one, then another to keep harassing me. She camped out on my doorstep for five nights begging to be let in even calling the police one day to say I had thrown her out ... she has never lived here. I'm at my wits end and have taken to using a new email and phone number to communicate because she keeps trying contact me.
This week she turned up at my moms bridal shop for her "dress fitting" with two of her bridesmaids. Mom was mortified and had to close the shop so she could deal with the tears and denials.
We had planned a destination wedding over Christmas paid for by my parents. Since the split my parents and I have cancelled everything to do with the wedding but are still going away together as an extended family for the holidays to the same place.
We've cancelled all the bookings for her wedding party, cancelled the venue and bridal suite (i'm staying with in my brothers room now) and got our money back.
Ex is refusing to a) believe the relationship is over and b) keeps telling her side of the party and all of our mutual friends that its all on despite a very public announcement by me that its cancelled.
I dont know what to do next?
tl;dr: Ex will not accept the relationship is over after she cheated and the wedding is cancelled; what do I do next?
Source.
Split up from "Hayley" five weeks ago after she admitted cheating with her work colleague (but only after being caught in the act). Infidelity has always been a red line and as soon I knew the relationship was over.
I've had a pretty **** few weeks but my family have been around and kept me sane. I only told my mom, dad and brother the real reason why. Everyone else has been told that it just didn't work out and I did not want to go through with it any more. I announced the cancelling on all my social media accounts and we have written to all the guests.
She has just failed totally to accept that its over and the wedding if off and the relationship is no more. We (me, my parents, brother and friends) have all had walls of texts ranging from "I'm sorry", "it didn't happen", "it did happen but it was done off", "I hate you", "I love you for ever", "what time do I tell my dad for the suit fitting". After I blocked her number she got a new one, then another to keep harassing me. She camped out on my doorstep for five nights begging to be let in even calling the police one day to say I had thrown her out ... she has never lived here. I'm at my wits end and have taken to using a new email and phone number to communicate because she keeps trying contact me.
This week she turned up at my moms bridal shop for her "dress fitting" with two of her bridesmaids. Mom was mortified and had to close the shop so she could deal with the tears and denials.
We had planned a destination wedding over Christmas paid for by my parents. Since the split my parents and I have cancelled everything to do with the wedding but are still going away together as an extended family for the holidays to the same place.
We've cancelled all the bookings for her wedding party, cancelled the venue and bridal suite (i'm staying with in my brothers room now) and got our money back.
Ex is refusing to a) believe the relationship is over and b) keeps telling her side of the party and all of our mutual friends that its all on despite a very public announcement by me that its cancelled.
I dont know what to do next?
tl;dr: Ex will not accept the relationship is over after she cheated and the wedding is cancelled; what do I do next?
Source.
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