My [26F] husband [30M] cheated, I don't want him at the hospital when our baby is born and I'd like advice on how to handle the situation.

My husband (of 4 years) recently told me he's cheated 3 times. There was a ONS before we were married, a FWB situation 3 years ago/they "only" hooked up a couple of times, and another FWB he saw off and on for a about a year but ended it right before talking to me about the cheating. I've had suspicions but no evidence, he'd tell me I was crazy or insecure and assured me he would never do anything like that. I eventually started questioning myself and feeling bad for thinking such terrible things about my own husband.
I'm pregnant with my first child (due next month) and I think he finally admitted to cheating because he felt guilty. I've spent my entire pregnancy feeling like a complete psycho and started seeing a therapist, thinking I might have some kind of mental illness. He sat down with me a few weeks ago and told me I'm not crazy, I was actually right all along and he was cheating. He apologized but I'm still not sure if he's truly sorry or even capable of grasping the severity of the situation.
I'm not shocked but definitely hurt and very angry. I'm staying with my mom for now and I'm pretty sure I want to get divorced. I don't think I'll be able to trust him again and he probably isn't worthy of it anyway. I feel like I'm in a fragile place mentally right now and need to stay strong in order to be a good mom to my daughter when she's born. Because of this I don't want him at the hospital for my c-section or any time after her birth. He's accusing me of using the baby to punish him and said keeping him away makes me just as bad as him. I'm not planning on preventing him from ever seeing her but I don't feel obligated to allow him at the hospital considering the circumstances.
We argue about it every time we talk lately and I've started avoiding contact with him because I'm sick of the stress. I don't want him there. I don't want to fall for anything or be reminded of how much I love him. I also don't want to ruin my daughter's potential bond with her father. How can we go about this without anyone getting hurt?
Edit: I'm open to the idea of him seeing her separately in the hospital. I'm going to try suggesting that as an alternative. He really wants to be there for her birth/the c-section but hopefully he's willing to compromise. I'm not trying to hurt him, more like protect myself and by extension my daughter.

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tl;dr: My husband felt guilty and admitted to cheating. I'm distancing myself and preparing to get divorced, as a result I don't want him at the hospital when our daughter is born next month. I'd like advice on how we can handle this situation in a healthy way.


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Well don't have him there, that's your choice.

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