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How did you stop caring what others think about you? How did you stop comparing/contrasting your lif (by Sparky)
How did you stop caring what others think about you? How did you stop comparing/contrasting your life to others?
I want to write a lot about my situation but it doesn't really matter. I am doing all I can to better myself and improve my situation, yet I get in my own way more than out of it. I want to stop wasting time and energy on caring what other people think, if they like me or not. I have no women in my life at the moment and next to no real friends anymore. My best friends have moved to faraway places, one teaching English in Vietnam and the other running a Buddhist monastery in Colorado. I want to stop taking rejection so personally. I want to just be a free man emotionally but don't know how to even begin.
Thanks for any advice, experience, or insight. Greatly appreciated.
edit: some context...
27, college dropout. Worked as a technician building gaming computers and fixing ATMs before starting to learn front-end web development. Now learning UX (user experience) with hopes of turning a passion project into a viable company. I am Indian-American so I have to deal with all kinds of judgement for being a dropout, not being married by now, having misdemeanors. On top of all that, my older brother is super successful, so everyone wants me to be more like him and less like 'me'.
14 months ago, I left Georgia for Maui and then Utah to see some of the natural wonders of North America for myself and to grow as a developer. I had some of the most amazing experiences of my life then but I also started to feel burnt out from working as a web developer, living like a college student, and feeling isolated. I tried to start over but it's hard when old habits of comfort (weed, drinking, porn) come back with a vengeance.
Now, I'm back home and trying one more time. I currently feel like how Jesse Pinkman felt when he tried to go back home to his parents house in 'Breaking Bad'. I'm trying my best but I feel alone, demoralized, and everyone acts like they know what it's like to grow up surrounded by alcoholic *******s who did more to hurt me than to help me become a man.
Yeah. All I got going for me at the moment is I'm sober, have a friend who wants a website from me, and I'm jamming to some RHCP.
Source.
I want to write a lot about my situation but it doesn't really matter. I am doing all I can to better myself and improve my situation, yet I get in my own way more than out of it. I want to stop wasting time and energy on caring what other people think, if they like me or not. I have no women in my life at the moment and next to no real friends anymore. My best friends have moved to faraway places, one teaching English in Vietnam and the other running a Buddhist monastery in Colorado. I want to stop taking rejection so personally. I want to just be a free man emotionally but don't know how to even begin.
Thanks for any advice, experience, or insight. Greatly appreciated.
edit: some context...
27, college dropout. Worked as a technician building gaming computers and fixing ATMs before starting to learn front-end web development. Now learning UX (user experience) with hopes of turning a passion project into a viable company. I am Indian-American so I have to deal with all kinds of judgement for being a dropout, not being married by now, having misdemeanors. On top of all that, my older brother is super successful, so everyone wants me to be more like him and less like 'me'.
14 months ago, I left Georgia for Maui and then Utah to see some of the natural wonders of North America for myself and to grow as a developer. I had some of the most amazing experiences of my life then but I also started to feel burnt out from working as a web developer, living like a college student, and feeling isolated. I tried to start over but it's hard when old habits of comfort (weed, drinking, porn) come back with a vengeance.
Now, I'm back home and trying one more time. I currently feel like how Jesse Pinkman felt when he tried to go back home to his parents house in 'Breaking Bad'. I'm trying my best but I feel alone, demoralized, and everyone acts like they know what it's like to grow up surrounded by alcoholic *******s who did more to hurt me than to help me become a man.
Yeah. All I got going for me at the moment is I'm sober, have a friend who wants a website from me, and I'm jamming to some RHCP.
Source.
Just be yourself. be at ease with yourself. I gave up years ago giving a monkeys about what others thought about me - if you know me and like me then all is good. but if you don't know (anything about) me, and don't like/approve of my opinions or way of life, the way I look etc, I really don't give a rats a** - it's not my problem! that said, I am extremely easy going, and get on with anyone - unless they are a complete idiot - in which case I will tell them so, heheh! :0)
just saying...
just saying...
Last edited by mrsienna; 24-May-17 11:20 am.
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