[Serious]Folks in arranged marriages, what is it really like?

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Don't you get me started

Please explain ....Im interested how this does work out

Well , its a bit of a miracle.. Arranged marriages have proved to b more successful at least so far in our culture at least . Its longevity has been attributed to the fact that its a predominantly social contract but it can't b the only reason as we're becoming more n more individualistic with time. Its like being in a wedlock with a complete stranger and growin with it,, as the relationship grows with time and becomes more complex. At times it feels like being in jail and sometimes its equally liberating. Its hard work but it its rewarding as well . You know that it can b precariously fragile but its still the anchor of your life .

@Singhpk:
Thanks for the reply. I was always curious how that worked out. Let me ask you this is it a dishonor to your family if things dont work out between the couple and how do you cope with that. Also who decides who the couple should marry is it the elders or the parents of the couple

There was a time when young children were married so nobody bothered to ask them of their consent , the marriage was fixed by their parents or family elderes. That is of course illegal now as minors cant marry the process has evolved a bit with time as well, the parents mainly search for the prospective spouses of their children. The families meet and the would b couple is also encouraged to get to know each other and if everything works out fine they get hitched. Marriages are very extravagant affairs with hundreds or even thousands people attending. In some cases the couple who want to get married introduce each other to their families an with the consent of their respective parents they go ahead. This is broadly the process which has evolved and is still evolving with time. Personally speaking i saw my wife only once and never spoke to her before we were married.
As far as walking out of marriages is concerned it is still frowned upon. There was a time when it was cosidered a social stigma and a divorced person felt like an oddball because there was so few of them. But things have changed fast. Divorce rates are rising sharply and people accept your choice generally now but there are still saperate yardstics for men and women.

@Singhpk:
Thats interesting like I said I was always curious how that worked. I read somewhere here in the US the divorce rate was one of the highest in the world. Its like 48% of marriages end in divorce here. 30% stay together for the sake of their children. The study also showed that children from a divorced family was almost guaranteed to end in divorce themselves when married.

@rulost2: We're catching up real fast with you guys on that divorce rate business here, lol
The thing is we as an species are at such stage of our evolution where personal satisfaction and happiness is supposed to trump what is wise, logical, and for the good of everyone. We do not know what happiness means is another matter. Unless we metamorphose to the next level of intelligence i see no escape from our dependence on and need to have a deep giving relationship with the person of the opposite sex and at the same time our somewhat contradictory need to have freedom to seek personal satisfaction and happiness. Its all about managing contradictions in our lives where we're bound by the laws of nature that happiness and love is the state of having absolute freedom but seeking happiness in the boundations that we're conditoned to put on ourselves.