As soon as a guy finds out i have a son they seem to switch off :s

I don't know about guys but I switch off when I find out a guy has a child because children complicate relationships. I'm young, I wanna have fun, be spontaneous and travel and you can't do that with somebody that's got a child.

No way!!! Male or female is they vanish when finding out u have a child, let them go!! It takes a real man to accept a woman and her children and vise versa. Children dont complicate relationships, selfish men and women do. Children are a bonus to a relationship, a lil one to love and have rely on u, a true blessing. If a man or woman leaves, they weren't worth ur time. Dont give them another thought. I clearly state on my profile i have children as many people do, cuz i am proud of my babies and would NEVER hide or act like they dont exist, they are first, they will always be here and will ALWAYS be mine.

Exactly what brite said. Im 23 and i would love to be in a relationship with someone that has a child. Why becouse children are a gift. Apperently this man isent a real man but a boy.

I'm not selfish. I've been in relationships with guys with children, that's how I know they complicate things & why I won't go there again. Children are a bonus to a relationship but only if they're your own, if they're not your children why would you want that responsibility & those restrictions on your life?

@PunkPrincessCSI: it is good that u r honest abt that....and although i cant personal understand not wanting children i can see that if you have none by choice you wld choose to date men/women that did not have or expect chidren right away. it takes all to make the world go round and I am gld to see someone being upfront and honest abt who they r. I dont care if a man chooses not to date me becuz of my kids, obviously he aint the rt one for me. but i do expect honesty abt it!

I don't mind dating a woman that has kids, but I don't want her kids to be brought up too much at the beginning, if that makes sense. Wanna get to know HER first. That's jus me tho

@LaDawn1794 Exactly! I'm glad somebody understands that I'm not some horrible child hating monster, a lot of my friends have children & I think they're awesome they're just not something I want in a relationship. If & when I decide I do want children in my life I'll have my own but right now I'm young, have a very successful career & want to do a lot more travelling :)

I jus think saying children complicate a relationship isnt rite and does sound selfish. If u meet a man and fall in love then later finds out he has a child (perhaps a child he didnt even know of) are u gonna fall out of love? Loving someone means loving all of them, and their children are a huge part of them. I understand not having children, not wanting children, but to blame the children is ridiculous. Their are many single mothers as well as single fathers due to people thinking like this.

I think more people should own up to not wanting a kid and while i dont understand it i have seen too many beat and abandoned kids. If u know u cant luv em like they deserve then thank u for being upfront