Why don't women contact guys first? Don't call it being old fashion because someone made that barbaric ritual up. Aside from that, what makes you women think you shouldn't contact a guy first?

I think its because men look at every woman that crosses their path, so to have one actually take the time to contact u shows interest. We women like to know u are attracted to us, we want to feel wanted, not cuz we contact u and u happen to respond but because u seen something in us worth seeing. Thats jus my opinion.

I have contacted a couple of guys because their profiles interested me. But i do prefer the guy to contact me first. Like brite said it shows your interested in us.

I personally find it uncomfortable to do when I'm in a dating site, but if I'm playing scrabble and chess online or in a writing platforms then I contacted a lot of gentlemen.

The same could be said about a woman contacting a guy first. It also shows your interested in us. So don't be shy or make it a gender based situation. If you are interested, show it off. Everyone is equal to everyone aside from the obivious. I have contacted women on here, by the way, but I feel that women are making dating as competitive as finding a job. If I have to compete, I will simply take my interest else where. It's one thing to feel like we don't click but another to put me in a rotary.

Whew, all this jumpin' to conclusions is wearin' me out :)

Well i dont like to look at it as a competition but the whole world is constantly judging one another tring to find their mate. And in order to stand out from the rest u have to make urself known, male and female. U have to put ur best foot forward, if women like u to contact first and several answered yes to that, then u should contact first, if they dont reply, contact someone else that u think u have common interests with. Its not a sexest thing, its jus what we prefer. If u dont do it, then thats ok too, maybe some will notice u, but its harder that way. Jus my opinion

@Briteeyes1211: Well stated. Although I already knew all that but I appreciate your thoughts and words here. On a side note, I do contact women first the majority of the time. However, why don't women extend a simple courteous message like, "I'm not interested. Thank you for your message?" Not those exact words but along those lines.

i agree completely, granted, i am new to the whole 'dating game' (was never any good at "picking up girls") and have spent a decade hiding behind a friend (who happens to be a woman) .. .. letting people think what they wanted about the fact that i live in her home .. .. only a few other women have even acted like they noticed me as anything other than her 'pet' .. .. even when i try to talk to them .. .. ... maybe i am just too shy, or too much of a 'nice guy' to catch their attention .. .. (or maybe it is the fact that i prefer to live way up in the mountains where others find it hard to breath) .. .. the fact remains that it would be nice to get a response when i send a message .. rather than just being ignored

There are alot of messages sometimes u just cant answer all of them. I saw it said there were way more men than women on here. Maybe we should make more effort to reply to all but some days it is not possible