Every time I thing a guy yells at me I threaten to kick there ass..I got raped and beat so I'm afraid...now a guys mad at me...I need to stop this or I will never be happy.

Quick solution is to not be friends with *******s. you might try some self defense classes. be friends with a guy for at least two months before you date him. date for two months before you sleep with him. be up front about how long you expect him to wait for various stages in your relationship.

@synmoon: aw kiddo-sorry to hear that:( I had the same issues w trust when I was your age-actually still do lol but I have learned to stay away from guys that make me feel like I need to threaten them. If you feel it was an overreaction on your part, maybe explaining why you act the way you do will help him understand? If he knows, and still angry, then my guess is he is not the one for you:( just an opinion-I dont know whole story... :)

Wow smh

The thing is I have done classes...since I was 7 I had to learn to fight becouse mom didn't give a rats ass that her bf was touvhing me.she married him still

It really sounds like you need more than self defense classes-counselling is the best defense against becoming a victim in relationships over&over again:) You really should be whole inside before you try to find a mate;) Have you tried counselling before? If so maybe it would help to check back into it-tell em what youre tellin us:) That little girl is still inside hurting-heal first and these problems youre havin will not be issues anymore:)

Can't...thing is I keep feeling I have to please my family...and they don't like it...I just wish I knew what to do.

:(

My friend rach suggested I give this site a try...she just wants to help.

Family can complicate things but after the horror you have been thru you have got to get therapy. I am going to start facing my demons, gotta learn to deal whether I like it or not.