Men who tries or enjoys scaring their women does not have to always include immediate violence or harm. The scaring can range from playful acts like jumping up from behind to that of actually threatening physical harm. Why do you think some men get a kick out of making their women jump/scream? They only laugh afterwards. And, do you think no matter the degree or severity, it's still inappropriate to do in a relationship?

in australia we have a strong campaign on domestic violence against women but it comes in many forms physical and emotional abuse its still abuse

There's a major difference to jump scare or like a halloween scare. To a yelling and gonna pop you one scare. The latter if a girl did it to me -and I can jump, especially with spiders- i'd laugh after my heart sat back down. The latter, i'd tell her where she could shove it. In short, former I don't really do to someone I am dating; kinda a prankster with family tho. I'd say is okay long as she's not totally against it. (I like horror genre, and being scared. If it scares me legit, kudos). The latter is completely uncalled for and anyone who does it needs to be popped one.

when I was married she and I played many practical jokes on each other. Ranging from jumping out and going "boo!" to ice water being poured on the unsuspecting spouse in the hot bath. It was all in good fun,went both ways,and we each laughed about it so no harm no foul.

Ah, so you think it can not be a form of playing around no matter how it's done? If a very young boy does this to a very young girl, is this a tale tale sign in your view? Is it malicious and a sign that he could be abusive later on? I guess what got me to thinking about this is that recent rape incident and how my cousin would jump out and scare the crap out of my sisters and me. When we shouted or screamed he would almost die laughing. He's not a bad guy or been incarcerated. So, if he thought it ok to do then, he may still see nothing wrong with it and do this to his gf/wife in the relationship. I never got what kick some guys got out of that.

I see.... That makes sense too. It can be purely for fun than anything harmful or sinister depending on the nature of the situation. To me, it's a little aggressive but once there's laughter and things people ordinarily dont take it too seriously unless...it's serious.

Ah, mk...I got you perfectly. Yes, that is more a fun playful thing between partners. You both get it and enjoy it. What do you think if it's just one person doing it and the other partner finds it a little odd but nothing serious?