id like to know what someone can do on this site to catch ur attention? What will make u take a second look? Basically, what lil things can be done to make that person stand out. Not jus on the site but in a long distance relationship, since thats what most of us will end up with at first if we find love. Is it winks, roses/hugs, flirting, sexting, gifts, what gets ur fancy. I have my lil things, but id like to hear from u guys and girls please

I almost ALWAYS message someone back when they mention football, tho, I guess that doesn't really help anyone else. I guess the more info a person has in their profile the better chances are that another person will find something to message you about to perk your interest

I only reply to messages. Will not reply to winks, hugs, etc..... Just is annoying to me.

@singlefatherof2: same here. I dont reply to winks USUALLY but i always reply to a rose. But this site is FULL of thousands of people so lets say u have 3 girls attracted to u....is there one thing that lures u in that one of the girls might do that the others didnt do?

I like it when they try to start a decent conversation. If you're giving me your number in the first message, I won't talk to you. I also don't like being asked sexual questions initially...guess I'm just weird :-\

@smgangel: Not weird at all. If i get a # first message i dont reply, nor do i reply to any sexual questions or comments on first message....

hmm... this is a very good thread topic brite. id say good humor and descent conversation. since i wont message anyone without asking first, i wont answer one without being asked first. i dont give 2 sh*ts about sexting or anything of that nature. dont like giving my number so the few that have it are select. not special, but have gained my trust..... or paid my fee....

I honestly don't know, brites. I guess I will know it when I see it.

If we can't get a legit conversation or make me laugh. (or vice versa) I don't bother.

Not shallow but a really nice smile is the first physical thing I look at. So guess a picture may draw my attention to see if the book as good as cover?

Messages are about all I'll answer to though I have sent winks before a message or meant to and forgot to.

Pretty much, the biggest thing is personality. Biggest probably turn offs is if the girl hates kids (I want kids one day), goes on about another guy(someone online, not here messages me that they liked me then next day cried cause another guy shafted her), and if they are high and mighty. I ain't the muscular, the prince charming or einstien but don't need to act down on me. Lol I had an ex that disliked way I dressed, or looked.

In a relationship? Biggest thing that attracts me to knowing she cares is if she at least texts a hi, love you. Pretty much everyday. I try make point to. Just so know not the last person on her list when she's bored.

Also text or not, cuddling or a kiss also can attract me real well. Unlike most guys, I'd rather cuddle than have sex. Lol though I am a guy with urges. So I can be Pervy too. Lmao

Think covered it all. Lol

Yes, I agree to good sense of humor and decent conversation plus the consistency and it progresses as the days/ months / years passed by ..

Since LDR is difficult to established and maintain , its really important that both parties will never feel bored during the conversations ..