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Financial Contribution In A Relationship/Marriage (by JustMeAndYou77)

9 votes
Men 100%
Men 80% Women 20%
Men 60% Women 40%
Men 50% Women 50%
 JustMeAndYou77 (17)   (46 / F-M / Florida)
6-Nov-12 7:41 pm
Women who want to contribute 100% financially was not indicated due to the fact that majority of women want a man's financial input in the home. However, if you are a woman who contributes 100% financially and even prefer it this way, please also share your experiences with us.

 

 

 
 
 Shellbelle 
6-Nov-12 7:58 pm
As a relationship is 50 50 so should be the financial responability......same as when it comes to the home....both share also in the cooking and cleaning....you both are grown you both are adults......it has been my experience when my ex husband paid for everything he felt it gave him the right to dictate and control everything i did.....he made the money he said what goes.....when u both pay and take care of the home there is no gender role confusion! :)

 

 

 
 
 PaulG7719 
6-Nov-12 7:59 pm
id say 50 50 is fair if kids are involved. its so hard to survive without a 2 income family. if i had that kinda job id say 100%. but you have to be someone importants brother or screw someone who can give you that kinda pay. im just not that good lol

 

 

 
 
 JustMeAndYou77 (17)   (46 / F-M / Florida)
6-Nov-12 8:05 pm
As a relationship is 50 50 so should be the financial responability......same as when it comes to the home....both share also in the cooking and cleaning....you both are grown you both are adults......it has been my experience when my ex husband paid for everything he felt it gave him the right to dictate and control everything i did.....he made the money he said what goes.....when u both pay and take care of the home there is no gender role confusion! :)
Ah, wow Shellbelle. I see.... I have thought this way for a while. But, I always figured even if I worked if I got married and he was better at money management, should he have main access to the finances. Very interesting, thanks!

 

 

 
 
 JustMeAndYou77 (17)   (46 / F-M / Florida)
6-Nov-12 8:09 pm
id say 50 50 is fair if kids are involved. its so hard to survive without a 2 income family. if i had that kinda job id say 100%. but you have to be someone importants brother or screw someone who can give you that kinda pay. im just not that good lol
hahahaha Paul, you're a mess! This is true but these days both men and women have to bring in the income in order to survive and maintain a pretty comfortable lifestyle. The thing that has been on my mind is how the money will be managed once brought into the household

 

 

 
 
 JustMeAndYou77 (17)   (46 / F-M / Florida)
6-Nov-12 8:13 pm
Once you determine the manner of contribution from the poll above, should that same option be applied to how finances are managed?

 

 

 
 
 Shellbelle 
6-Nov-12 8:20 pm
I think it should be an equal discussion.....if the hubby is better at management let him control how the bills are paid but he wife should also be allowed freedom to spend as long as bills get paid first.....they can agree on how much she has access to.....or lets she she wants a new dress.....and she has a problem with over spending.....pay the bills first and give her enough for her dress with a lil cushion making sure theres something to fall back on in case something unexpected comes up.......idk if im explaining this right...lol.....i hope u can understand what im tryin to sa

 

 

 
 
 Briteeyes 
6-Nov-12 8:39 pm
Most people say a household should be 50/50 cuz thats the "proper" way it should be. But realisticly we all know most men make more money then women so its not 50/50. A RELATIONSHIP should be 50/50 More then who pays or dont pay the bills. One can succeed in one area of the relationship and the other succeed in another area of the relationship and they come together as 1. A relationship built on i pay u pay is a doomed relationship. In life u take care of U....but in a relationship it becomes u take care of US goes for men and women. And the one with the best math skills, organization skills should pay the bills, but let he other be aware how much goes to which bill t keep them informed of the finances

 

 

 
 
 JustMeAndYou77 (17)   (46 / F-M / Florida)
6-Nov-12 8:56 pm
I think it should be an equal discussion.....if the hubby is better at management let him control how the bills are paid but he wife should also be allowed freedom to spend as long as bills get paid first.....they can agree on how much she has access to.....or lets she she wants a new dress.....and she has a problem with over spending.....pay the bills first and give her enough for her dress with a lil cushion making sure theres something to fall back on in case something unexpected comes up.......idk if im explaining this right...lol.....i hope u can understand what im tryin to sa
Yes, you are making very good sense. Some ladies in the church I grew up in worked things out with their husbands this way. Except they called this an allowance, which at that time didnt sit right with me. I thought she gets an allowance like me? Like, a child?lol But, yes, I understand a little better now as Ive gotten older. This way did work for them and they lived comfortably.

 

 

 
 
 JustMeAndYou77 (17)   (46 / F-M / Florida)
6-Nov-12 9:07 pm
Most people say a household should be 50/50 cuz thats the "proper" way it should be. But realisticly we all know most men make more money then women so its not 50/50. A RELATIONSHIP should be 50/50 More then who pays or dont pay the bills. One can succeed in one area of the relationship and the other succeed in another area of the relationship and they come together as 1. A relationship built on i pay u pay is a doomed relationship. In life u take care of U....but in a relationship it becomes u take care of US goes for men and women. And the one with the best math skills, organization skills should pay the bills, but let he other be aware how much goes to which bill t keep them informed of the finances
mk, I completely agree with this. I personally chose 60/40 because of this idea as well. I figured this would give the guy a 10% mathematical lead lol jk Anyway, the main factors for me in deciding was my own financial abilities-what I earn, what I currently do with it etc

 

 

 
 
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