I hate to admit it but i need help. It seems everytime someone and i go out on a date i always have trouble w "making a connection" w the other person. I get too nervous and shy everytime. Alot of times im too scarred to even ask the person to a date. How can i build my confidence up and also if someone cld give me a tip on getting rid of the nervousness that would be super great lol.

Sometimes you dont get over it you just over come it. By remembering that the other person is probably just as nervous as you are. Just try to relax and be yourself. If you dont venture out and try things you wont gain anything either. Basically try to relax and be positive and tell yourself you can do it. If its asking someone its easy there is only yes or no or maybe i will think about it. Keep yourself focused on a positive i can do this. Dont ever go to negitive. You will then back track yourself to being im not sure i can do this when really you can. Have a little faith in yourself and beleif. Anything is always posible if you believe it.

She has a point buddy. Think to urself that u r wat the other person is looking for. That will give u confidence in askin them out. Then just make conversation and see wat u have in common and build up ur confidence on the conversation. And believe in urself. It will make it easier.

Thanks. That helps sum. Ill have trouble getting over my shyness even if i think optamistically. If yall seen me when i get shy yall wld prob die from laughter. Lol. I get to stuttering rly bad and sumtimes i forget words all together and thats when it gets too embarrassing.

Sweety thats happened to me a few times. One time i was speechless couldnt say anything. I was embarrassed. I had never been not able to say anything to anyone. But i laughed it off and called it my dorky moment. I wouldnt laugh at you everyone has a embarrassing moment.

U already got past the hard part.. She said yes an guess wat ur the one who is payn so u get to decide where. R u mre comfortable n a group or alone ? Which ever it is go with it. Dnt thk of it as a date with suceed or fail thk of it as hanging out. Call her an tlk to her a few times before thd date dnt just text this will mke u more at easd tlkn n person

Hey man, its more than just talking, what do i do? Honestly, i dont see it as a date, it may be, but i see it as a couple of people gettin together, formalities like dating, just saying the words make you nervous, but you want real game, get sly, now that dont mean play a lady now, thats wrong, what i mean is work your way into it, slowly, but where you dont put so much pressure for failure on yourself, first date? Youre goin out with a good friend, then work your way into dating over time, go from a good friend to somebody youre talkin to, then when you get comfortable enough, pat yourself on the back, youll realize youve been in a relationship, but didnt have to slice out ur tongue for it

Wow where to start invert all your natural feelings around girls when your mind tells you you are lucky to bewith her flip it around and you should end up somewhere in the middle where you should be

Thanks again. Its hopeless tho fellas. Oklahoma sucks for finding relationships. Im just gonna just keep using this site n hope sumbody likes me

@jcbolt: i know for a fact there is at least 1 really cool girl from oklahoma do some home work go the extra mile they are out there