My ex is 20. my son is six months old. she just up and left outta nowhere. now she thinks that its ok to go around saying i dont wanna see my son but she is only allowing me to see him once a week and then blaming me and saying i dont wanna see him. and so i have two questions. first, what do i do about this whole scenario? and second, are women really so afraid of being with a single dad, whether its long distance or not?

Some women may be afraid to get involved with a man that has children. Mainly because there is always the childs mother going to be in your life. I dont think it has alot to do with the child. I personally have no problem with a man having children. I have known women that feel this way. And about her running her mouth.....has child support been established yet? If not you may want to go to the friend of the court and tell them your situation and that you want to pay support but that you also as the childs father would like to exercise your rights as a father, because in fact she can not legally keep the child from you. Its kinda one of those situations where time will have to prove what your intentions are since you can not keep her from saying you dont want to see your child. I have alot of knowledge pertaining to parents rights so if you need help let me know:) good luck!

Blueeyes give great advice. On top of hers, forget abt the baby mama drama of the situation. Jus bust ur a** n be a good dad. In the end, that's all that matters

Thanks ram:) but yeah forget that crap with the mother, she eventually will be making herself look bad as a mother. The child is whats important here. be a great father to your son and you will surely reap the benefits!!!!

Thanks guys that really helps. i honestly dont believe that she is doing any of the right things and because of that i want custody. what do i do there?

Like i said, start with friend of the court first. Then what you need to do is document everything! I mean every little thing she does,says to you,says to others,that has to do with your son. write it all down with the dates and times. I will tell you it is hard to take a child from there mother because unfortunately in the eyes of the court it takes some pretty rotten things for the mother to do for them to consider it. But it is not impossible, just be on your game, document everything, go to the FOC, talk to a lawyer as well , just be patient cause it will take some time....

Thank u for the advice. its gonna help in the long run. i mean its just hard to see the true intentions of a father anymore beecause of thoise guys out there that seem to run away fgrom their child and gives us good dads a hoirrible name. i would give anything in the world just to make sure m son is ok. thanks for the advice guys i appreciate it.

Your so very welcome:)

Im on the same boat my friend . make sure u pay her some$ for ur boy n keep record of it, cause it sounds like she will go for childsupport , but think about going to court for some custody rights or it will get u bad in the long run . my babymonster kicked me out but i fight to see my princess n yes , single dads do have it bad far as getting a date cause they assume babymonster drama . idk what else to say but goodluck my friend

I guess im glad i was older when i had my chiuldren because i dont srop him from seeing our kids he stops himself i dont even collect money for child support. I try hard to be understanding. But im at my last straw. I dont and do need the money for my children but most of all they want to see him. I cant take the pain away from them and wish i could and i try hard. But no matter what you do thay need both parents.