well than I don't think you should ever have kids tbh. And even after 3, 5, or 10 years of marriage it doesn't mean you'll never get divorced or you won't lose your job ect.

@polarbear71484: then may i kindly suggest that you consider getting a vasectomy? there's no shame in it if you truly don't want to have children. and even if you were to change your mind later, the world is full of homeless kids who need a loving parent. you can always foster and/or adopt.

Kids suffer when parents separate not so much to say materialisticly but mentally and emotionally I child I believe truly needs both of their parent or they run the risk of being mentally and emotionally and sometimes monetarily unprepared the world. My father wasn't in my life and that does truly leave a whole in your heart that affects how you react on a day to day basis with people

But sometimes it does more damage when the parents stay together

Both parents are ofcourse better then one in most cases, but if the parents are staying together for the wrong reasons then the child will see and suffer emotionally too. My sons dad and I reconciled when he was 10 worst mistake of my life...now my son suffers from that. I thought it would be good to have both parents here, but it wasn't, it made things worse. My kids fathers were in their life, and they know they are loved.

My mum and dad split up when I was young and I turned out fine my daughter's dad doesn't bother with her she is fine infact she prefers it me and her coz he is a waste of space alcoholic and druggie I was pushed into having a baby I didn't want my only regret was not wanting her at first but with my mum's support everything fell into place I wouldn't change her for the world she comes first over everything and everyone else btw I was 20 when I had her

Well in most cases to raise a man it takes a man to raise a woman it takes a woman. I understand what single parents are saying but a woman can not truly tell a boy how to be a man because she is not a man and the with a girl and her dad. So thats why I say two parents is truly is whats required it is so many men raised by single mothers that can not stand up and be a man because they are not shown the way and many girls raised by single dads and do not know how to be a lady. I mean if you took every girl here on dating.mobi that had a child guess a percent of them that actually planned on having a child. I am thinking 85 percent.

That's not true I am a tomboy and my daughter is a girly girl but she had grandma and aunts that deal with make up and stuff and if I had a boy it would have been grandad and uncles to help raise a man so don't judge what you don't know please

@polarbear71484: either can raise a child... takes a man to be a father not just a sperm donor

I mean if you took every girl here on dating.mobi that had a child guess a percent of them that actually planned on having a child. I am thinking 85 percent.

What??