Get with the man! He's everything you want, yes? He doesn't just want sex, no? Just because you're happier than you've been in a while, doesn't mean he can't make you happier. The ball is in your court, take the shot!

Dont do anything with him. He may want it all but if you don't then you will feel pushed by him and there goes the friendship. Focus on the friendship and if it is to happen it will. Usually when you want someone ,you want them. You don't have to think about because you just know it and feel it. I know tons of great men, but that does not make them the guy for me.

Thank y'all for your opinions...I thought about this alot today and realized something...I am already in a relationship with him. He is a part of everything in my life already. Both of us go about tending to our everyday lives ourselves but I hadn't realized how much time we spend sharing until he told me how much he treasures our visits texts and calls himself. I have never respected any man as much as I do him. I came to the realization that the only thing changing here is that we talked about how much we care about one another. Seriously...how is being in a relationship different? And of course with that honesty comes physically showing how much we care and working towards combining our lives permanently. I actually have many male friends that I am very close to but none of them have ever reached that lil something inside that gives such promise and hope for more, they never made me feel like a relationship was worth pursuing. You had it right Sammy...I was fronting and didn't even realize it.

@LaDawn: I only noticed cuz its what I have done for a long time. I really think its not that I dont want a serious relationship, but that I want certain things to be certain ways in a relationship maybe? Happy one of us has figured it out:-)congrats!:)

@SammyToo: I was sitting on the deck and thinking to myself 'what wld having a relationship change?' Then I realized that he already has a spot in my living room that we call Bo's chair...he has his own plate coffee cup and tea glass just like we do...for goodness sake he has a toothbrush at my house cuz he stays over so often. he is the first person I call when I have any news...we coordinate our weekend time and what we r cooking and who is contributing what to the meal. I buy the brand of tea he likes...cooks his preference...keep his glass filled and am always aware of what he is doing in case he needs anything. He makes sure my animals are healthy...sees a sticking door just fixes it...makes sure to bring lil things to the house that he notices we haven't bought yet. I have gone to all his work functions with him for mnths now. He makes sure he always introduces me to everyone...opens doors...cooks my steak just rite...hell he IS my partner..might as well make it official and physical and I am looking forward to what the future brings for us.

Hell....yall might as well head on down to the church house lol ;-)

@WalkSoftly: u trying to git me to run some more? Hell I've had a bf for mnths and didn't even realize it...gimme a min to breathe here.

Welllll.....I just thought I wld share a lil of my happiness. this guy has become the best thing to ever happen to me (besides my kids, of course ). I can't believe it took me till I was 40 to actually feel like a woman should for a man. He has finally healed too many hurts others inflicted. I love him so much. He says it is his privilege to be in MY company, but I am positive the privilege is all mine.

@LaDawn: Yay so happy for you ladawn big hugs :)