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Friend skipped my wedding because her boyfriend didn?t want to come (by Sparky)
(29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
Friend skipped my wedding because her boyfriend didn?t want to come
TL;DR: Friend of 10 years and her boyfriend RSVP?d yes but did not come to my wedding because her boyfriend ?doesn?t know many people?
I have been friends with Sarah (not her real name) for 10 years. I?ve been close with her entire family for the entire time, they were invited to the wedding too, and Sarah and I even lived together for a few years before I moved in with my now husband.
Sarah started dating this guy that most of her family doesn?t like, so I figured the wedding would be a bit awkward for him. After Sarah and her boyfriend RSVP?d yes, I let her and her boyfriend choose who to sit next to at the wedding so it would be as comfortable as possible. They chose a table of 4 other people who they both knew and were friendly with.
Two hours before my wedding Sarah texted my phone to say she wasn?t feeling well and wouldn?t be coming. My MOH had my phone so I didn?t find out Sarah wasn?t there until I was in the middle of saying my vows and I looked around the room and couldn?t find her. After the wedding I texted her and wished she?d feel better soon, and I was willing to let it go as bad luck.
Sarah?s brother confided in me that the reason she didn?t come to the wedding is because her boyfriend said he didn?t want to come. It?s not like he was her only way of getting to the wedding, she can drive and her entire family was coming too. I?m not even mad that I paid for food that wasn?t eaten, or that we could have invited two other people. I?m mad that she flaked the day of the wedding and hasn?t followed up with me since. She hasn?t asked how it went or complemented the pictures or anything.
Advice on how to start a conversation about this?
Update: I spoke with her mom earlier and it seems as if her and her boyfriend had a fight earlier in the day and she just did not have the spoons to make it. I reached out to Sarah to tell her I?m bummed I didn?t see her but I?m not mad. I?ve also arranged for her mom to pass along the message that I will help her get a new apartment if she needs to move out, because it seems her relationship is becoming increasingly unhealthy. I didn?t want to text that to her incase the boyfriend saw.
Thank you for all the advice!
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TL;DR: Friend of 10 years and her boyfriend RSVP?d yes but did not come to my wedding because her boyfriend ?doesn?t know many people?
I have been friends with Sarah (not her real name) for 10 years. I?ve been close with her entire family for the entire time, they were invited to the wedding too, and Sarah and I even lived together for a few years before I moved in with my now husband.
Sarah started dating this guy that most of her family doesn?t like, so I figured the wedding would be a bit awkward for him. After Sarah and her boyfriend RSVP?d yes, I let her and her boyfriend choose who to sit next to at the wedding so it would be as comfortable as possible. They chose a table of 4 other people who they both knew and were friendly with.
Two hours before my wedding Sarah texted my phone to say she wasn?t feeling well and wouldn?t be coming. My MOH had my phone so I didn?t find out Sarah wasn?t there until I was in the middle of saying my vows and I looked around the room and couldn?t find her. After the wedding I texted her and wished she?d feel better soon, and I was willing to let it go as bad luck.
Sarah?s brother confided in me that the reason she didn?t come to the wedding is because her boyfriend said he didn?t want to come. It?s not like he was her only way of getting to the wedding, she can drive and her entire family was coming too. I?m not even mad that I paid for food that wasn?t eaten, or that we could have invited two other people. I?m mad that she flaked the day of the wedding and hasn?t followed up with me since. She hasn?t asked how it went or complemented the pictures or anything.
Advice on how to start a conversation about this?
Update: I spoke with her mom earlier and it seems as if her and her boyfriend had a fight earlier in the day and she just did not have the spoons to make it. I reached out to Sarah to tell her I?m bummed I didn?t see her but I?m not mad. I?ve also arranged for her mom to pass along the message that I will help her get a new apartment if she needs to move out, because it seems her relationship is becoming increasingly unhealthy. I didn?t want to text that to her incase the boyfriend saw.
Thank you for all the advice!
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