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My (33F) husband (31M) went to a bar and lied to women to make them believe he was single. (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
30-Jul-21 7:55 am
My (33F) husband (31M) went to a bar and lied to women to make them believe he was single.

My (33F) husband (31M) went to a bar and lied to women to make them believe he was single. He then ended up alone with one of the women for hours after the bar closed, didn?t get home until 3:30 AM. Claims he didn?t cheat.
My husband and I have been married for 10 months.
Four months ago my husband went to a bar with his friends. These friends are not married, and have made disparaging comments about men in committed relationships. Although my husband claims he?s happily married, he has a long history of casual relationships with multiple women and was always very successful with women in his past.
During the night, he went up to a group of young women sitting at the bar and offered to buy them drinks if they let him cut the line and order a round of drinks from their seat at the front of the line. They agreed and he continue to talk to them and flirt with them the entire night. During this conversation he lied about where he lived, what he did for work, and he admitted he did this with the intention they believe he was single so that he could keep their attention. He admitted he liked feeling wanted by them.
He claims he never took off his wedding ring, and that the girls just either didn?t notice, or didn?t care. He said they never asked if he was single, so he never clarified one way or the other.
After talking with these girls all night, the bar closed and he went outside to order an Uber. His friends all left and he was left standing with one of the girls he had been flirting with all night standing next to him. The rest of the details are very convoluted (and they still don?t make sense to me), but they ended up with him breaking up a fight, and losing his cell phone in the process. He said when the fight broke out next to him, he handed his phone to the woman next to him so that he could interject. As he was talking down the fighter, she got into a car to talk to a friend, left my husband?s phone in the car by accident, then got out of the car to remain outside the bar with my husband. (All of her friends had also left at this point and she only got out of the car to keep hanging with my husband) He had to use this woman?s phone to call her friends to help track it down his phone.
He claims he and this woman were alone standing out side of the bar for two hours while they tracked down his missing cell phone. During this time she asked him to ?go back to her house a few blocks away to stay there while they sorted this thing out?. He ended up having to Uber with her to get his missing phone at a house 15 min from the bar. He didn?t get home until 3:30 in the morning.
He claims he didn?t go to her house, and that he didn?t do anything appropriate with her. That he enjoyed flirting with her, but would never cheat and didn?t touch her or kiss her.
The facts of this night were only relayed to me the following day- after two days of me asking questions, digging for more and more details about the night, and him constantly lying and then finally coming clean. I still don?t believe that I have the full story. The only peace of mind I have is that we both follow each other on the iphone tracking app ?find my friends? and at one point I woke up at 2:30 in the morning and saw that his phone was at some house in a neighborhood 15 minutes from the bar. And I have his Uber history showing me his trip home from that house.
He claims he was very drunk, and regrets his actions. He?s apologized, but I don?t know how to move forward.
How do I move forward from this ? Does anyone actually think I should believe that he didn?t physically cheat ? Should I cut my losses and move on ?
TL/DR: My husband got drunk at a bar and lied to women to make them believe he was single. Was alone with a woman for 2 hours after the bar closed, claimed he didn?t cheat. Do I believe him ?


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