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Woman (35F?) who hits on my (38F) husband (39M) CONSTANTLY keeps pouting that I don’t like her. (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
21-Nov-18 5:00 am
Woman (35F?) who hits on my (38F) husband (39M) CONSTANTLY keeps pouting that I don’t like her.

My husband and I work in the same small field, although not for the same employer. One of his coworkers is just incredibly ridiculous. She pretty consistently hits on him, including in front of me. Mainly stupid **** like running her hands along his hair and telling him he needs a haircut at work, always telling him how the two of them are the only two who really “get it,†calling him at 10pm at night to talk about her personal life (which he has shut down), etc. She pulls a lot of passive aggressive nonsense with me when I am around — stuff like telling me that I don’t know him like she knows him (she’s known him for all of two years and only as a work colleague), touching him constantly, etc. Once she invited him out in the evening and he texted back that he was on a date with me, and she pouted and refused to talk to him for a week.
I do NOT think that there is anything going on from his side at all. He pretty consistently tries to avoid her (insofar as that is possible as they work closely together), and is very transparent about all of this bull**** from her. But I absolutely think that she is interested in him and has been pretty bizarre about it for a good two years now.
Suffice it to say that I do not like her. Honestly I wouldn’t be a huge fan even if she wasn’t doing this. I don’t have to see her much — maybe 4-5 times a year. I have not ever said anything to her or made a show of avoiding her or shot dirty looks or anything. But I don’t talk to her. I’ll respond in a reasonably cordial way if she talks to me, although she generally doesn’t. I just don’t go out of my way to talk with her.
The big issue is that later she makes a huge pouty deal about how I don’t like her. First it was too my husband on a repeated basis, who brushed her off and just didn’t engage. Now it continues to be an issue with him, but she also won’t STFU about it to our shared social and professional acquaintances. It’s driving me batty. I don’t want to cause or escalate drama, especially as many of these people will gleefully seize on any opportunity to gossip and whip up theatrics, so I don’t really want to explain myself. I have so far just pretended not really to know what (or who) they are talking about and then tell them that I really don’t know her (which is mainly true).
So questions: 1) How should I deal with this girl in general? 2) Should I ask my husband to deal with any of this in a different way? 3) What do I say to other random people who ask me why I don’t like this girl? 4) Should I actually say anything to this person?
TL;DR — Crazy lady hits on my husband like it’s her job and then pouts to everyone that I am not trying to be her best friend.


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