A little over 4 years ago I survived a very abusive relationship...he was very controlling and physical anyone who knows me on here knows my story......well after recently falling upon my exes fb profile ( yes I stalk him to keep tabs because I dont trust him)...anyways I see he is now happy engaged buying a home found a good job......nothing like he was with me........Is it just another wool over the eyes type of situation????? Was he only like that with me....or is this girl secretly suffereing?....maybe he has changed and 4 years in prison smartened his ass up???? Idk....I want to know wtf

How is he already miraculously already happy and well to do when Im still cleaning up the mess he made

Pretty sure a FB profile is only gonna reflect good things, not bad.
And unless he's had some intense counseling, I doubt much has actually changed...and it's iffy even if he HAS had that type of counseling.

Thats what I would assume too

@shellyme: Ya never know what goes on behind closed doors. I've seen many couples break up, and after hearing the reasons why, I've thought many a time I'd never believe what him or her had been doing.
One particular friend of my brothers shot and killed his wife at the hunting camp and tried to play it off as some random guy showing up and doing it. His lies caught up with him and in his trial, all kinds stuff came out....Insurance scam, banging a college student just to name a cpl. Details blew everybody away.

Well he does have a history of major violence Im a prime example......Im guessing she just may be one of those...stick it out tolerate it type

I don't know if he is abusing her or not, but my second husband's ex wife used to ask why he had a successful life with me, owned his company, bought a home, 2 vehicles, etc but he couldn't have it with her. Different people bring out different sides, maybe he has grown and learned what not to be or maybe it's all a camoflage, either way it's time for you to heal and move on. He isn't hurting you anymore, be grateful and smile.

I believe that walks is right our fb or outside appearances can differ vastly thwn real life

Honestly given his past history Im betting its camouflage......and I am happy moving on and healed....just stunned it all seems too perfect on his end