I was recently contacted by an old ex who i havent seen 4 years and he seemed to think we could rekindle our relationship (though i don't feel even remotely the same) he then went on about how we could work as a couple despite living 300 miles apart. the things he suggested to see each other were ludicrous to say the least and i couldn't subject my kids to the drive every week like he wanted! it made me ask myself if love and distance actually work??

That's a loaded question, it has all kinds of ifs and buts or what ifs. But in your case, being a single mother with kids, in a long distance relationship the guy should be willing to come see you. Simply for the fact that, he's askin a lot of a woman to just gather her kids up and drive so far as you say even further just for instance. That's a lot harder than a guy hopin in his car vroom vroom gone. Lol but that's my logic.....and i've been told often my logic is flawed so hope helps.

1st of all you say you don't feel the same way as he does, so just tell him NO. But if you do agree to see him again then I agree with BillCollector he should come to see you & the kids. It's his Idea make him spend the time, gas money, effort and wear & tear on his car.

I agree with the guys, but you have to ask yourself one important question. If it didnt work out the first time, do you think it will work out this time? Im not saying dont do it, but since you have kids involved you really have to weight the pros and cons to this. Good luck!

Really depends if u had broken trust the first time around. If he lied to u when u guys were close its a joke if u think that he wont lie to u even worse being further away but dispite that EVERYONE has given agreeable suggestions and inputs...and that means everyone no "flawed" logic that i can detect

Hmm wow i have Alot to think about. i agree with all you guys and i'll always put the kids first. thanks guys! I'd love to hear if anyone of you has had any experience in the subject in any shape or form!

Behind every lie theres 50 you dont know about and sometimes children are btter off coming from a broken home than living in one-ok ive watched dr phil stax but what he says makes lots of sense and works in practice.

Yea well dr phil is good but i think i see what you're saying :-)

@autumnq20: Yeah just think twice, end of day what i found in life a childs love is unconditional while relation ships seem conditional. Im guilty of putting my ex before my kids for yrs to give example of what good marriage was about-it did help we on same pg, however i pushed my kids one side to much and regret that altho they so forgiving but i did make a mistake in my case. But i must say my kids luv there stepdad very much even tho his now my ex n they got good relationship

Its always easier to see from the outside looking in but when it comes to the heart vs the head somehow the heart always seems to shout louder!