I guess I am scarred very much hell nobody had perfect parents my I hate my family my whole family and everything about them. My mother used to get drunk and beat me four times a dad my dad left me to dad. My other family since the probelm and just looked down at me with pitty as if pitty can stop or fill the whole in your heart or stop your mother from hating you because you like your father. Love is very hard to obtain and it rarely last very long and I can not promise you and neither can anyone promise someone that they would love a person for 18 years and I mean love not tolerate that person. By having a kid with a person you are making a life long commitment with that person to always be in that person live as long as your child is alive. That is a promise that I don't think I can make that promise I was wondering why do people make that choice and what was your thought process behind that and I assume that you are on dating.mobi that you broke up with your baby's mother or father.

my dad was never in my life, and from what i do know of the man honestly i am better off from that lack of association...my kids dad has never been in their lives and I honestly dont see where they suffer, they are inteligent happy children that are loved by the rest of their family.

Not having a father is a very big thing in most children lives. I mean anyone without a father has asked this question before and it answer always hurts no matter how your mother words it 'Where's dad?' I am not saying that your kids are nessarily suffering but in general kids generally do. I know I did and many other people did growing up as well.

@polarbear71484: my children have never asked about their dad, they may when they are older but they are now 12 and 13. Hard to miss someone who left before you had time to form a lasting memory of them though.