@Briteeyes: She did lose a baby back in May. But I know that didn't drive her to cheat. Just the way things went down...and the way she broke up with me...I know that wasn't it. Maybe she's just easy, and I was too blinded by love to realize it. :( I don't want that to be the way I see her from now on, but it looks like that's all it could be.

@ComeWhatEverMay864: No dont think of her like that cuz u loved her, remember that love. U have to forgive her, come to peace with it that u two arent meant to be. And then at that point u can begin to move on.

find way to have her back bro :)

@Briteeyes: Thanks, Brites. :) it may take a while to forgive her. But I think I can manage eventually.

@missCHIE: If she hadn't cheated on me, I would. But once someone cheats on me, they're done. No second chances.

my last relationship of 15 yrs sounds and looked like, to the outside world, like your opening remarks save of the cheating on my part. . I was sat upon a pedestal. envy of all my friends. i smiled and let him have his show. But I was dying within. he had stopped dating me. the courtship ended. his love had become empty words of self boosting of how any woman would gladly take my place. oh how i cried at night wishing and praying someone would. i got dusty on that pedestal. lonely there all alone. his physical body was there but not his heart nor mind. It's hard to be ignored in those degrees. let her go honey. she's no longer yours. she's climbed down from her depression and opened herself a door

okey :) then just forgive her and seek other women who deserves ur love more :) dont' give up.. There still a lot of pretty girls out here !

Don't feel bad, dude. My wife cheated on me for the last 2 years of our marriage. She slept with 6 guys at once. And yes, we have kids together. I stuck it out for the kids sakes. When she started abusing the kids tho I kicked her to the curb.

Some people - women AND men - need to have outside attention to make them feel good about themselves. And serial cheaters will ALWAYS blame it on you. "I did what I did because you [fill in the blank]." It will change from "... because you didn't cuddle with me" to "... because you have too much money."

It makes no sense but generally, they are very immature, weak and insecure. Being with someone else who adores them (if only for 5 minutes) is what makes them tick.

What you need help with is NOT understanding why she did it - there is no sane reason to cheat - but how you can get over her and move on which I have found to be the hardest part. We love to beat ourselves up and take the blame.

JUST SAY NO.