I'm kind of curious to see what others think. Are there any mobians out there who have a gay parent? Were they a prominent player in your upbringing? (IE: Did they raise you? Did they spend a lot of time with you while you were growing up?) How do you think having a gay parent affected your outlook on life in general?

I never met my parents i don't know if they are bi straight or gay... doesn't even know what they look like... i just was there @ the orphanage... sorry i did not give you the answer you are looking for... I just don't know it but i sure wanted to say something to the thread... I wish i knew my parents i sure miss alot of things about them...

I'm sorry you never got the chance to know your parents. Thank you for your input, none the less!

Good question Irish. Homosexuality and Lesbianism are closer to home than we all want to believe. And it exists in the black community as well as the white. To specifically answer your question, no my mother and father aren't in the gay lifestyle, although they have been separated for years. One of my father's brothers died from AIDS in the early 90s. He was gay. However (and I can discuss this here because she's very open about it herself), my sister is a lesbian. She's been in a relationship with her gf for about 5-6 years now. They have a home together and are considering marriage and starting a family together. My mother is a devout pentacostal and Im not a lesbian. It was hard grasping the concept of the lifestyle and it nearly tore our family apart.

@JustMe: Thank you so much for your reply! My mother's brother died from AIDs as well, in 1992. It took my grandmother a long time to come to grips with the reality of his life style. When I was 14 my mother came out as a lesbian. I was always raised to respect others choices, so I never had an issue with it, but some of my other family members have had a harder time. Do you think that having a sister who is gay has made you more accepting of other lifestyles?

i don't have any family members who are gay, but my unofficially adpoted sister (my best friend) is a lesbian. my daughter will call her aunt and i hope that she grows up believing that orientation has no bearing on a person's worth.

My best friend . His mother went through several different partners while he was growing up . Now every one of them were all good men who tried to do the best for him but at the end of the day non of them were his real father so he listened to non of them and rebelled against all of them . But what really f.u.c.k.e.d him up is that his mother went through a gay phase for about 3 years and he was really embarrassed and ashamed that his mom was a dike and he didnt want anyone to know . But the thing is everybody knew anyway . Sure he got some slaggings when he wasnt around but honestly knowbody cared that his mom was a lesbian it was just something a bit peculiar cuz in ireland at the time to be gay i think was against the law i could be wrong there but it was definitly taboo . Man how things have changed cuz ireland in a few years has become one of the most backword countries in europe to probably one of the most libral countries in the world :)

Hi again Irish and thank you too. Well, my mother always gave it straight...and biblically. She still will in a heartbeat and I appreciate and love that about her. Her reasoning is some time off but I appreciate that I was raised with moral understanding. Really, I am the one that usually stop a disaster from happening between my mother and my sister and her gf because it was breaking up the family and I love my family and want us to be closer. My sister would get upset with my mother and would stay away.

Personally? I just don't view homosexuality and lesbianism as a lifestyle. I'm not against people exploring their sexuality (in a safe and disease free way pa lease lol) and this is exactly what I think about it...it's a sexual thing. I don't condemn my sister in the same way but I think my sister and even her gf has given up hope on finding a great guy. No matter what people or society may paint me as or need me to be for them, I would die alone and childless before giving up on myself and on my desires to have that natural love from a man. It's just natural and raw to me and it's something I don't mind dying old with in my heart.:)